Help with muslim boyfriend?

Question

my bf is muslim an we always shag (not literally always but a lot) but its ramadan now, so hes decided not to shag me, but hes never had a problem with it before, so now that its ramadan hes finally decided to buck up?? wtf?? isnt that kinda hypocritical? what do you think

Answer 1

I think you are just trying to be funny but it is really ridiculous in the way you are saying thing's.

You seem so childish speaking like that.

Answer 2

Just consider the following. Cultural, social and religious differences are unbrridgeable problems for being lucky in a marital life.

Answer 3

Is he shagging a infidel? Religious leaders would cut his **** if they came to know.

Answer 4

Among the things that Muslims are supposed to not do during daylight hours of Ramadan is to have s*x.  Once the sun is down, there are no limits.

Answer 5

he s not allowed to shag if u r not married. that's the end of it

Answer 6

he is a total hypocrit, a muslim is NEVER allowed to sleep with someone before marriage so the rule of not having s*x during the day in Ramadan only counts regarding your husband or wife. and i bet he has a shower after his haram s*x too, doesnt he?  

Answer 7

oh my dear... welcome to the mind of a Muslim man. Most Muslim men are confused! On the one hand, they are cool, open minded, etc... and then something like Ramadan pops up and it's like they remember who they are! It's years and years of brainwashing from parents and society, and he will never get over that. Trust me! I've known many friends who've dated Muslim men, who are really cool, but then do a 180 degree turn when it's Ramadan, or Eid or any Muslim holiday. I almost feel sorry for them (the modern muslim person), because they don't know how to find the middle ground - where they can be and do what they want AND be good muslims at the same time. It's not even that the religion is 'extreme' as some might think, but he could easily just fast and still BE with you. So, it's HIM who's chosen the 'extreme' way of doing things. Yes, Ramadan is a month of meditation, and abstinence, and maybe that's how he's seeing it - kind of like the Catholic's lent where you stop doing the things you like the most (ever seen the Josh Hartnet movie 40 days 40 nights? or something like that) - and in his case, having s*x with you is what he likes the most... and I'm sure he's not even drinking alcohol, right? Well, you can either try to understand it and accept him for who he is, or if his ideas seem too weird, then maybe his values and morals don't reflect yours, and therefore, might not be the right person for you? You can always talk to him if it bothers you that much...? GOOD LUCK!

Answer 8

If he was a good muslim he wouldn't be shagging you till you are married, and I doubt that's gonna happen.

Answer 9

its not right till youre engaged or married....if you dont like it, you shouldnt stay with him..

Answer 10

d**n hypocrites, just dump the fool and get on with you're life.

Answer 11

Yes.  And shame on you you should be married, just because "everyones" doing it does not make it right. Everyone is not.  

Answer 12

It's against his religion to have s*x during Ramadan. The Koran suggests that it's ok for men to have slaves and more than one wife as sexual partners but they shouldn't dirty themselves on women during their holy month.

Maybe you should treat yourself with more respect and expect him to also.

Answer 13

What's wrong with "shagging" after his fast is done?

Answer 14

He knows that in Islam it is illegal to sleep with anyone other than your wife, if you are unmarried and sleeping with someone else that is unmarried then he is commiting sin. Personally, I be careful of dealing with such a person who clearly does not value you because if he did he would marry you.

Answer 15

You do not seem to be a Christian or a Jew.  You also seem to know nothing about Islam.  I suggest that you get grounded in some system of religious values before you continue your relationship.

Answer 16

He is definitely confused and a little lost. Any intimate relationship outside marriage is a no-no. He is in denial about what he needs to do if he wants to practice Islam and this comes across as hypocritical. If you feel like maybe you can ask him to sort his head out and figure out where he wants to be. Point out that he needs to be honest to himself.  

Answer 17

If you push him you will lose him. Either respect his religion or plan of parting ways.

No offense but odds are he will not end up marrying you. Your a easy western women that does what he wants. Once he decideds to settle down it will not be with you. No matter what he says.

Answer 18

i know it seems strange to u but its not to them. even tho they are doing something they shouldnt be if they stop it during ramadan they will gain some "points" and any points are better than none. if ur married u can only have s*x during the hours of darkness in ramadan if ur not married u shouldnt be having it at all.   i was ok as i was married but i know a lot of friends who used to complain about thier boyfrirends suddenly turning religious during ramadan  its a special time and even people who are not very religious normally become so during ramadan, its a bit like people who only go to church at christmas thats the nearest example i can give u.  at least its only 40 days (and long nights !)  

Answer 19

He's getting into his faith after dancing on the edge of slipping up (religiously) and no technically it's not hyprocritcal, it would be if it was ramadan and he was trying to shag. One can decide to change life styles any moment of their lives. if it won't work for you two then bounce.

Answer 20

I sense sarcasm in your question..

but if it's a real question, yes he is a hypocrat

Answer 21

yeh that is hypocritical, but u should respect this because ramadan is really important to muslims and instead of calling him a hypicrite e.t.c. why dont u try an encourage him to be more muslim (if thats the right way to put it lol) throughout the whole year instead of just ramadan

Answer 22

Oh yes he is...u should do ur research about islam and prove him wrong!!!!! he should not ...touch u at all...well he should not have gf...he should marry u and that is it...

if u study islam u will see that you have a lot of rights on him and he is not being fair with u...

if he is not loyal to God, not loyal to his parents...dont expect him to be loyal and honest to u...

good luck

and by the way...we are allowed to have s*x in Ramadan...only at night and with our spouses of course

and yes Ramadan is very important because if u fast...some of  the sins from the previous year are forgiven...so is a good chance to start over

Answer 23

First off, if he's a practicing Muslim he would know that s*x is not allowed until marriage, whats the point of fasting for one month, and shagging the rest? Your boyfriend sounds like a real Douche Bag.