Help with my 3 year old little boy?

Question

I have two great kids a 7 year old girl and a 3 year old boy.

I am a single parent and I love them like crazy.

They are both great kids.

I go to school during the day to finish college.

Well yesterday I got out of school early so I had some extra time to spend with my kids.

My son drew on the wall and after I talked to him and gave him a time out he was acting fine and then he hit his sister with a belt so I talked to him again and I gave him another time out. Then he said bad words so I did the same and then my daughter was eating and he was putting things on her plate so I did the same punishment. Then he said that he was going to be good so I gave him the benefit of the doubt and thought that he learned his lesson. But then he bit his sister, so I punished him again. This is not like him and to top it all off he said that he hated me.

I never remember my daughter acting this way.

What should I do, I do not believe in spanking and I have already taken away his things

Answer 1

It sounds like he may be begging for some one on one time.  I know it will be hard but try giving him just his own special hour or something.  God Bless!

Answer 2

Stop talking, he doesn't understand why you are pontificating.  He is only 3 years old.  He sounds as if he is bored and not getting enough attention.  YOU need to keep an eye on him.  The reason he said that he hated you was because he doesn't like that he is crying out for your attention and you keep punishing him.  He is three years old he doesn't know how to express him being hurt and angry so him saying he hates you is saying as best he can.  Every time he needs your attention you punish him.  No wonder he hates you.

Answer 3

I think you should sit down with him and have a talk. Let him knw that you are in charge and make sure he realizes that. Maybe taking away toys doesn't really affect him. Also try spending one on one time with the kids. Timeout seems to be ineffective it probably just pisses him off.

Answer 4

It almost sounds like he is acting out for some extra attention.   I would try spending some extra  time with each of them.   I hear the I hate you all  the time from my 5 yr old.  I just look at him and say yeah BUT I LOVE YOU!

good luck

Answer 5

You need to praise and encourage him when he is being good ,and don't give him attention( ie lot's of shouting and screaming) when he is being bad - as that is what he is looking for.

Just say in a firm voice what he has done that is wrong and why it is wrong, and how he will be punished.

You also need to set rules and boundaries that he knows he has to follow, and make sure he has a daily routine and spend quality time with him when you can. Good luck!