Help with my scorpio dad..

Question

okay, this may take some time to type...please read the whole thing and help me out. it'll be appreciated.

well, my scorpio dad is very affectionate. very sweet, and i ♥ him. but he doesn't notice hes smothering me w/ affection. hes constantly hugging, and telling me how much he loves me. i know, ur probably like, "wtf??? i wish i had a dad taht was that affectionate." but you're not me so you wouldn't understand.

being a cancerian, its probably very odd for me to not want him to love me so much. but really...it gets suffocating. i have a taurus moon, gemini venus and aries rising. my gem venus might make me a bit more flighty and detached while my aries rising might make me have hatred for being smothered. but idk. i need advice.

why is he so lovey-dovey and affectionate?(no, he's not creepy like some pervert. lol!) he just likes to tell me how much he loves me, and loves spending time w/ him.

i love being around him, but i'm tired of feeling smothered. naturally i'm a very detached person, and hate sharing my feelings(even though im a very emotional person). any advice? and is any of this my fault??

thanks for any answers!!!

and what is ur sun/moon/rising?

Answer 1

You should be thankful. I wish I had that affection from my mother. She didn't show us affection or anything. She show love in a mean way.  

Answer 2

awwww.... that's sooo cute, I do that all the time w my little siblings!!!

HEY my parents (especially my mom) was cold and HATED me since a little girl- so look at it only on the positive side- you dont want an evil parent! BELIEVE ME!!!

Answer 3

maybe he sees you are growing up into a woman and he wants you to stay his little girl.  Just say thanks dad i love you too, but you don't have to tell me all of the time cause i know you do. ( whoops i think you are female!)  Is your mom around?  Sorry i really don't know much about astrology for except i am a pisces the 12th sign of the zodiac. The moon is out now & the sun will rise tomorrow morning  lol

Answer 4

hey shady,

im a cancer with a scorp dad too. i understand you very well, my dear. when i used to live w my parents, i HAVE to peck him good night kisses, before i go to sleep or a good bye kiss before i go out with my friends. and last time i checked, im approaching my thirties.....

but he passed away last year, and i should be very d**n well glad i dont have to do it anymore. Yes, initially. As time fades away, and in actual reality, i missed doing it. But i cant do it, anymore. Now, i say to myself, its a habit i have to learn to undo.

Come to think of it now, no one, NO ONE in this world would be that genuinely and consistently passionate about someone they deeply cared. Not even your husband or your bf or your bffffffff (not including some mothers and some grandparents).

Yes, it is smothering. But think of some other people with broken homes, have irresponsible father, wished their father was as affectionate as yours or even never have or met their father in their whole lives.

Some people takes them to be like 40 or 50 yrs old to only realize what they had was good. Some on their death bed.

Appreciate and reciprocate his love and affections as a father-daughter , while its still good and still available. When its gone, you just make do with whats left of time; memories. Cancers and memories....ahh, like a broken record on replay auto mode.

cancer sun, aries moon, aqua asc.

edit- , - thank you. it was tapped straight from the heart. =) your parents (esp your mother) showed you what not to be, from the look of it, im sure, you'd make a great loving parent, instead. as its also individuals like this who teaches us of the truest kind of love.

edit- shady b- no, you're not being ungrateful, its ok to question your feelings like this as it helps you understand yourself and the people around you much deeper and better from time to time. thanks to your question, i was able to reflect and put my feelings into the right places. i too cried when writing this (we are such sappy cancers, arent we? <eyes rolling>). all the bestest to you, b! =)

Answer 5

You just gotta tell him straight out. My mom is always touching me and saying she loves me and all I do is hang with her so I get what you're saying.

But you've gotta let him know to step off a little, because he's overdoing it. But try not to hurt his feelings in the process!

And my sun is in Taurus, moon, Virgo and Leo rising.

Answer 6

I know how you feel. My dad can be the same way, but he's an Aquarius. I have always rejected his affections and he becomes annoyed by it...Except, being as airy as he is, he just goes about his business, and expresses his annoyance without getting too upset about it. I don't know how your Scorpio dad would react if you told him you wanted space.

I can't see how any of this is your fault...Other than the fact that you were born, and he loves you. The key is to get him to understand that you love him, but like to express your love in a different way than he does. Have you tried telling him how you feel about it? If so, how did he react?

I know it can be difficult with your family like that. They're so close to you, and if misunderstandings take place, it can be the worst. Especially since home is normally the place you can go to feel safe, and when there is conflict abound, it can be frustrating. Sometimes parents, especially ones that are very emotional (My mom is a double water sign, so if you so much as look at her the wrong way, she bursts into tears) it's hard to discuss your feelings with them on a mental level. They don't take a moment to listen to what you have to say in a logical way, but just let their hearts become overwhelmed by what they see as rejection. Sometimes you try and try, but they refuse to look at things differently....The fact of the matter is, you can't really change other people. You have to accept the fact that you are both different, and that if your dad is the smothering type, there may be nothing you can do about it, but try to show him your way of expressing love, and make him feel that just because you are not as touchy-feely as he is, doesn't mean that you are disgusted by him.

I don't really know what to say though...I wish I had a more insightful answer. I wish you lots of luck, and I hope that you are able to reach a level of understanding with your dad. Don't despair! Just remember that, as you mentioned, you are lucky to have a dad that cares about you so deeply, and it could be worse. : )

Libra/Cancer/Libra

Answer 7

Scorps will be very loving to their children but usually it shows in other ways than what you describe... Unfortuately you will have to tell him the truth and be gentle to his heart about feeling too much love ..That you love him and you know he loves you but better in moderation.....

scorp/capricorn