My stepdaughter is being especially "bratty" lately...
My husband has a 9 year old daughter and I have a 6 year old daughter, and together we have a 3 month old son... The 9 year old lives with her mother, but stays with us during the summer/spring/christmas breaks and every other weekend (sometimes more). I love her to death, I truly do, but lately, she has been extremely "bratty" towards me and my daughter. And there are some other issues as well... she wants to live with us full time and her father and I are all for it, but her mother won't allow (which I understand - there's no way my daughter would leave my house), but also, her home life isn't all that wonderful. Her mother isn't a bad parent, but there are things that she does that aren't great. I'm not getting into that now, but there are issues. Anyway- lately, she has been very aggressive towards me and my daughter, pushing her and just being ugly, and not normal kid ugliness either. Very hurtful. She even stole her money a few days ago, and when I cornered her on it, it "miraculously" appeared in plain sight on the dresser... I never accused her of taking it, as I didn't physically see her do it, but still... Part of me wonders if she is acting out because she wants to stay with us and can't, or if it has to do with the fact that I just had a new baby and her father and I are together still, while her mother and he divorced soon after she was born... I really don't know. But it has become so bad, that part of me wants to tell her she is no longer welcome in my home if she is going to continue with her current behavior. There is not enough space to go into detail all the things that she does, but they are spiteful, sneaky things that a 9 year old child shouldn't be doing. And she is doing it on purpose, for the purpose of inflicting pain or insult. I don't know what to do ... She used to be just fine, but lately... Lord have mercy. I'm at my wits end. Her father and I have tried talking to her, he's even had to get physical with her (popped her for lying and stealing) and nothing seems to faze her. When I correct her (and trust me I correct my daughter as well, sometimes even more so because she is mine and I am more comfortable getting on her behind...) she looks at me like I am the dragon lady and the stupidest person she has ever met... I truly do not know how to handle this. Any CONSTRUCTIVE advice would be greatly appreciated.
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