Help with sister problems

Question

my sister has 2 kids this is the first time in 3 years i have lived with her and we get in fights all the time and when we do she tells her kids tat im the worst aunt ever i hate fighting but its non stop how do i stop this fightimg

Answer 1

Why are you living with your sister anyway. In my opinion you are just lucky she calls you the worst aunt ever instead of kicking your happy butt out. You could probably get more help with your situation if you had said what you two are fighting about. If you are having that much trouble just get your own house. Maybe she is just getting overly stressed out and feels she has two much on her plate or maybe she is tired of seeing you so much. Absense is supposed to make the heart grow founder. Give her a break because she is the one offering you charity for whatever the reason. Hopefully you'll get over your fights and work on making your relationship better.

Answer 2

Well, if your 13 you can't exactly move out yet. The best advice I could give you is just try to avoid fighting with her. If she says something stupid that gets your goat, then just bite your tongue to avoid conflict. Sure, you may not agree with it in your head, but just go along with it. Take the high road, and don't stoop down to her level. The way your making it sound, she wants to feel superior.

And as for her telling her kids your the worst aunt ever, that is just a blow below the belt! She should not even drag children into the situation, it's just unfair to them.

Anyway, good luck and I hope this helped!

Answer 3

Have a talk with her, and tell her how you feel, And maybe say i'd appreciate it if you wouldn't tell your kids that. She just sounds stressed out, So sit down and talk to her, but remember to be nice you are living with her.

Answer 4

why dont you take her kids out for a day of fun

Then they will really see how "uncool" you are.

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Answer 5

tell her how you feel.

and THANKS this gets me to level 2!

Answer 6

well she should not ever put the kids in the middle.  My sister and i live apart better you may want to consider it.  one thing is because it is damaging to the kids for her to badmouth you infront of them.

Answer 7

tell her how you then say u need to put some manners into them but they r adorable

Answer 8

If she says that you're wrong then just play along. Don't even bother. If she needs help then help her. She shouldn't be telling her kids that. Ask her why she does that and tell her that it's not gonna work. if you need a place to stay then stay with someone else. But, if she needed you then leave. That's NOT something that you tell children. My mom told me that about her boyfriend and i have hated him ever since. I had good reason to hate him because that was true, but you NEVER tell kids that. Tell her that it won't work and that if she continues that then you're leaving. Talk to her kids and make sure that they understand. Don't involve them. That'll make it worse... for her and you. Just set everything straight. What are the fights about? Just email me if you have any problems. [e-mail]

Answer 9

wow, she's not worth it. to me, it sounds like a bad relationship. don't hang around if the person doesn't respect you and is always finding ways to hurt your feelings.

Answer 10

move

Answer 11

Do not wait three more years to leave. <}:-})

Answer 12

Tell her that she's being childish and there's no need to tell the kids bad things about you just because she is being childish. It seems to me like she's not ready for kids if she's still playing those stupid games. Tell her as a guest in her home, you do not appreciate being treated badly everyday and if anything negetive was to come out of her mouth to you just to keep it shut before she even said anything. Let her know how sick of her you are and to just get over it.

Answer 13

Try talking to her. Maybe you need to find your own place

Answer 14

Don't live with her shes rude

Answer 15

whenever a fight starts, be the first one to walk away. and she has no right to say your the worst aunt ever to her kids, even if she IS mad at u.

Answer 16

be the bigger person and ignore her when she try's to fight with you. Say "it's just not worth it" or just tell her she's right.. Some people are sick and thrive on fighting for no reason.  

Answer 17

you move out.