Help with socializing?

Question

so I'm starting 10th grade this year and i've always been pretty quiet but I totally hate it what are some ways to make small talk with random people and make friends outside my circle? and just u know not b known as this quiet little girl??

Answer 1

I can relate to you. What you should do is join some clubs that you're interested in, and you'll meet new people. Also, talk to people in your classes.

Answer 2

I was home schooled for elementary and then started going to school in grade 7. I was pretty quiet and shy at first. I made my first friends by sitting with people in class and through partners for projects and stuff. Eventually I started being friends with a lot of these people outside of school. Once I got to high school I gained a lot of friends through other friends. Eventually I got over my shyness. Now, no one would ever suspect I was a shy little boy in grade 7.

It takes time but if you're a kind and easy going person people will generally be attracted to you.

I would also suggest that maybe you join some clubs or sports teams that interest you. You can gain a lot of friends who have similar interests by doing so.

Good luck! You can do it.

Answer 3

Seriously, what's wrong with being quiet?  I would rather be/be around a quiet person who knows when to hold their tongue as opposed to someone who is a gossip and doesn't know when to be quiet.  There is nothing wrong with being a quiet or shy person.  Many people think I am shy and I have even had people tell me I am stuck up but I simply prefer to not get involved in conversations that I feel are not edifying.  The truth of the matter is that I am very outgoing!  I am known at my job as the most outgoing salesperson (I work a retail job on the weekends) our store has a recently won an award for my customer service.  I am sure you have been loud and obnoxious before, probably with your closest friends, right?  It's ok to be quiet.  More people need to learn this.

Answer 4

Talk to people about them. Everyone wants to tell you things about themselves if you just seem interested they will like you.

For instance you see a girl with a cut dress say "Oh, that dress is really cute."

Just point out little stuff to people and you'll have more friends than you bargained for.... : )

Answer 5

Honestly, I'm also like that before. I think you just need to develop self confidence just like what I did. Start by just greeting them a pleasant morning everyday. And be happy with what you are doing. Just believe in yourself and you can do it. Gud luck!

Answer 6

It's not so much about being quiet, maybe that's how God made you but you can still give to other people by making them feel good about themselves. You end up feeling good about yourself in the process.

There's a great book called -How to Win Friends and Influence People. If you read it and put it into practice-you will be on your way.

Everyday-look around for someone who's alone and be a friend. Ask lots of questions too. People love talking about themselves.

Warm Regards,

jana

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