Help with talking to my mom about curfew!? advice please!?

Question

hi! okay well im 16 and ill be a junior i highschool this year and i want to start going out more to parties and doing other stuff with my friends. i want to get a later curfew its like 1130 now...thats like really early for a 16 yr old right?

but also my big problem is if someone invites me to do something/hangout at like 7 or 8 pm (like they call then and ask if i want to come over) my mom wont let me go out.....even tho my curfew is 1130. i think she feels like it isnt safe for me to be driving in the dark or something idk! but its really bugging me because ive had to pass up so many opprutunitys to go to a party or just stn with a friend!

help please! how can i get her to stop this! thanks!

Answer 1

Your Mother is in charge of keeping you safe and becoming the best Adult.

Today, You think as a child  and not as a parent.   You will thank her after you grow up for the way she took care of you.

Answer 2

11:30 p.m. is a very good curfew for a teenager, that's very fair. Mine was earlier.

As for not being able to go out after 7 or 8, that is something that is your mom's decision. You have to respect that. She is your parent. You should make plans earlier in the day about what you are going to do, that way everyone will have advance notice.

Arguing, whining or complaining will not help your situation. The more you earn your mom's trust and respect her authority, the more that will show her that you are becoming more mature.

Answer 3

I think your mom is really wise.  It sounds like she loves you a lot and is doing a great job of keeping tabs on you and keeping you safe.  

I remember what it was like to be young, and those parties usually aren't as innocent as they sound.  Usually things like drinking and sometimes even drugs are present.  Although that may not be the case here, that may be the way your mother feels too.  

I would ask her if you could discus curfew on a situational basis.  Perhaps if it's a birthday party with your friend you can be home by 1am, but if it's a movie, she can know what movie you're going to the theater and the time the movie ends so that she knows when to expect you.  If you demonstrate you can be trusted she will loosen the reigns.

Answer 4

she's just trying to protect you. i know it's really annoying to hear it, but when you're under about 25 years old, your brain hasn't fully developed, which makes it harder to make well thought-out decisions.

if you want to prove to your mom that you deserve to stay out later, you need to earn it. don't argue with her when she says you can't go out, come home on time every night, and eventually talk to her about maybe getting a later curfew. the one thing i kind of agree with is not going out after 8..but i would say more like after 9:30 or something.

just make sure you know your mom loves you and that's why you have a curfew :)

i've seen a lot of little s***s walking around my neighborhood at 3 in the morning, and they are NEVER innocent.

Answer 5

Your mom is doing just fine, and your curfew is totally fine for your age. Trust your mom, she only wants the best for you.