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Question

im 16, Me and my ex where together for a year and a half, we where so close spent every day together we only live 4 mintues around the corner from each other. We was going through a pretty hard time and he randomly turned round to me one day and said " iv fallen out of love with you", A couple of weeks later i found out i was pregnant, we met up about 4 times, we slept together ( i no i shouldnt of but i was given the wrong impression ), He picked me flowers, we went for walks, we talke, HE asked if he could feel my stomach, and he saw the scan picture of his baby, He said he would only support me if i got rid as he is not ready for a baby, He then went wierd for a few weeks, started seeing another girl. Not because of that but i decided i had to tell his parents they were ok at the start, untill i changed my mind from getting an abortiion to keeping it, A week ago i had a misscariage and i text him to tell him and he never got back to me, him and my brother are great friends and he

Answer 1

Firstly, well done to you for sticking by what you wanted and not being pressurized into anyone to abort your baby.

This may be hard to hear,  but this guy did not want to be with you before you found out you were pregnant,  maybe he started being nice again because of guilt or maybe it was to convince you not to have the baby,  but either way his actions were not genuine.

As for him saying he would support you if you got rid of the baby what a ridiculous thing to say,  he should have supported you whatever your decision and not tried forcing you into his decision.

I assume your family know what has go on and I suggest you speak to them saying you do not want him round your house at the moment as everything is so raw (even though he is friends with your brother) and I am sure they will understand and support that.

He was heartless to not contact you after you miscarried (I know how traumatic that is) and shows what a jerk he really is.  Make as much distance as you can between him - you deserve so much better than him.

Answer 2

He's young and dumb...move on from him.  Don't call him/text him anymore!  If you see him, speak and keep it moving.  He's a PUNK for walking out on you and you don't need him.  Just a little word of advice...wrap it up...you're to young to be having babies...enjoy life!

Answer 3

sweetie he dont c u n his life or your kid daz why i wanted to get a abortion, just  let him go u r young n can get someone way better, dont you worry and i hope this help u on your next relashion ship to use protetion and make sure u are ready for it. im here for u babe u can email me at anytime

Answer 4

This is going to be hard for you to hear (or in this case read) but I'm going to say it anyway.

He's a loser. Don't waste your time on him. If he were truely a person that you want in your life he wouldn't have told you to abort it when your only 16. Right now you don't need him. Surround yourself with your parents and people who love you. They are the ones to depend on. Not him.

I know how hard the lose of a child can be. Even when it was by miscarriage. Good Luck. If you need to it would be helpful for you to see a councelor. Trust me on this.