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Question

I needed to get a little advice from a male perspective. My fiance and I have been together for 5 years. About a year ago I left him (due to reasons which do not need to be discussed on here) for about 8 months. We got back together and moved in together. When we first got back together he found out that I told a friend a personal and embarrasing detail (about him) to a friend about our s*x life. Since then he is having a large degree of erectile dysfunction and no s*x drive. We have been living together now for 5 months and we have not slept together one time. Everytime I bring it up to him he completely shuts down and acts like I am attacking him. I don't know what to do to deal with this issue and I would just like some male perspective, thanks in advance.

Answer 1

You shouldn't have told a friend to begin with.  There are some things that just don't need to be made public.  He's most likely reluctant to do anything because he's worried that if he doesn't perform well enough that you will tell your friend about that too.

Answer 2

why not just go down on him unexpectedly?

Seems like a good idea.

Answer 3

He is probably extremely hurt about the conversation you had with your friend, and just can't find it in himself to forgive you, and is subconsciously refusing to "perform" with you.

Answer 4

He's embarrassed that someone outside of the relationship knows about his problem, whatever it may be.  Think about that.  If your friend comes around now, he/she may now see him in a different light.  Do you want that for your fiance?  You really should give him a sincere apology and do what you can to make him feel better about himself...

Answer 5

sounds like he is scared of being rejected  

Answer 6

Well he's obviously being a little over sensitive about the fact that you told your friend. He just needs to get over it and you could help him with that by maybe seducing him, and making him feel that he's on top of the world when it comes down to s*x. If this doesn't work maybe you two should get some s*x counseling and visit a clinical sexologist. Good luck and hope this helps!

Answer 7

Well, let's see...  You've violated him at his most vulnerable point, and now he doesn't want to be in a postion to be violated again?

Yeah, that make sense.

Probably the best thing for him is to never see you again.

Answer 8

Women like to yap too much! You need to respect his privacy, how about if he told his guy friend about a feminine problem you had?

Apologise to him, let him know how sorry you are. Maybe he would open up to another woman.

Answer 9

Serious answer-

Give him some viagra, he is hurt by what you said (I've had that happen to me), help him out one time and he should be back to his old self.

Answer 10

This is kind of "fear of rejection"...

I'm not sure what you discussed about, but let him feel wanted and needed...

Don't go to the s*x topic directly, but I advise you to tell him one day that you want to pamper him, so offer him a nice candle light dinner followed by sensual body massage... Then you'll see his performance...

But he needs to feel your love to get rid of insecurity feeling towards you...

Answer 11

Don't say personal things to your friends especially when they involve s*x... now you have to pay for your mistake... makehim happy

give him head  

Answer 12

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