Helpp mee! i start school on tuesdayy :/?

Question

tuesday i start school and im extremely nervous. see, its a long story. i was in this school im going to now at the beginning of last year and then i was getting bullied and harrassment phone calls from my ex boyfriend and my ex bestfriends. so i switched schools. i felt totally lost and i didnt like it because i missed band and my reall friends. now that im going back to this school ive been getting phone calls again, my ex is like obsessed with me. and he doesnt have the freaking balls to stand up for himself to me. but i dont have the guts to say anything to anybody because im afraid ill make a fool of myself. alot of people also think im a w***e because of my ex. and now i haveta face him! what if hes in my classes and him or one of his friends say something!? help me.! im really nervous :/

Answer 1

oh wow. ummm i would just tell the counserlor that you were getting phone calls and stuff. also stick around your nice friends as much as possible.

Answer 2

My daughter was in a very similar situation a couple of years ago. She wanted to quit altogether at one point but we handled it in the end. It will be hard at first but here is what we did. First we had to place a No Contact Order on a guy that was stalking her. This guy would follow her everywhere. He even tried going into the bathroom with her on one occasion but thank the Lord a teacher saw him and prevented it. The boy was expelled after that; however that's when it got worse. His older sister and her group of friends started bullying her every chance that got in his honor, I suppose. When she finally felt confident enough to return to school, the girls tried to pick up where they left off. My daughter had decided that she was not going to take anymore c**p from them especially since it was not her fault. She couldn't help it that the boy obviously needed help. She never even knew this boy until he began stalking her. Anyway, my daughter would not encourage the girls in any way. Meaning, when you have girls/guys trying to harass you, you have to do what you can by ignoring it. What I mean by that is in the beginning, she encouraged them in many ways such as showing fear (even if you are scared to death, you have to try to appear as if you weren't), she also did not speak to anyone, such as other kids, about their actions. She did this before and even though the ones she spoke to about it was suppose to be her friends, they still told the girls what she said and added to what she said. These girls knew she was scared because she had told others that she was and even tried paying a couple of kids to walk her to her classes and such. This only encouraged these girls. When she returned, she never even looked in the same direction as the girls, she walked the halls alone with her head held high and a smile on her face. She had a few kids teasing her about it especially about paying others. Instead of acting like she did before, she would look at them, smile really big, and make jokes about herself concerning that. By the second week, it was as if the entire incident never happened. The girls figured out that it was no longer "fun" being mean to her and moved on to someone else. I know it's hard but you have to be like a duck in a pond when water gets on its back...it rolls right on off. You have to let the comments and so forth roll right off your back. Look at it this way, you most likely have something that they want, or they are just plain jealous of you otherwise you wouldn't be the topic of their conversations. My daughter even told one girl, "You must really like me because I know I have been the only thing you talk about in about 2-3 weeks now. Maybe we should go hang out sometime and then you will be able to know the truth about me intead of what is being said." She said this with a smile and even acted as if she was serious. The girl was floored and has not bothered my daughter since. When they are talking about you, they decided to give someone else a rest. Soon, they will move on to some other poor girl and forget about you. As long as you know the truth, and your parents, even though it hurts for them to spread rumors, I would act as if it never bothered me. You have every right to be at that school just as much as they do and if anyone should have to go to another school, it should be the bullies. People that bully others are not as "big and bad" as you think. They bully others because they have a problem with their own self-esteem, confidence, etc., etc. I'm not saying to act as if you were better than them. Instead, when you show confidence in yourself and let others know that you respect yourself, you will be surprised. And I agree with you on what you said about the counselors. It's very sad but true. If you have to face your ex, you act as if you don't know him. Don't acknowlege his presence at all. If you do happen to come face-to-face simply smile real big and say something like, "Oh, hey there. I didn't see you. Hope you have been doing great. Well, got to run, now" Short but sweet, all with a smile. When he finally believes that he no longer has any hold on you, he will leave you alone for good.

I wish you luck on returning to your school. I will keep you in my prayers in hopes you will be able to return to a normal life! I hope that I have been able to help you even if it's just a little.

Answer 3

Tell him to stay away from you, and that you're done with him and it's over. If it doesn't stop, just tell a councilor or something.