Hen night etiquette - please help!

Question

I am organising a hen weekend in newquay for my friend, and wondered whether or not my friend (whose wedding it is) shoould have to pay for the trip. Not sure if we should all split the cost of her place?

Any ideas?

Answer 1

All split the costs, definitely.  Have fun!

Answer 2

Hen night etiquette, that's an oximoron if I ever heard one. But yes she should pay. It's already costing you a ton for HER wedding.  

Answer 3

Really glad that your'e not doing it in York - there isn't any etiquette with those hen nights and most look like tarts rather than chickens!

Answer 4

If it's just a hen party, then everyone pays for herself.  If the party is actually for your friend (like a bridal shower), then the rest of you should pay for her (as well as yourselves).

Answer 5

It depends on the financial circumstances of the bride and her party. You are aware of that much better than any of us.  If you are all working and fancy free of the usual burdens of life like mortgages etc then it would be nice to split the cost and not charge the bride. Alas everyone is not in this position so splitting is the fairest way.  Perhaps, for the main meal of the weekend of whatever you could all put together and pay for the bride?

Answer 6

If u have already spent alot on a gift, id prob make her pay

Answer 7

I don't think there is a set etiquette but personally I think as you're the one arranging it you must be her best friend, and I would pay for her if I was you. Sure she would do the same for you.

Answer 8

Split the cost, she shouldn't have to pay for her own celebration

Answer 9

Firstly, can you all afford to split the costs?  If you can then I would, but she wouldn't want you all to be out of pocket if you can't afford to so I would look at it that way.  

I went back to my home city for my hen weekend and I knew my friends could just about afford to pay for themselves so I paid my own way.  I was just thankful that they were coming with me so I could celebrate at "home" with my family too.

I hope this helps?  And have fun!!

Answer 10

The bride to be (BTB) shouldn't pay if it was your or your friends idea to have the trip over to Newquay.

If however, the BTB especially requested you go to the expense of hauling yourselves there, you might ask politely as you can if she'd be willing to split the cost as you want to control expenses and contribute to a bigger gift or to the party itself.

Ideally, the BTB should NOT have to share in any costs for her hen night as it's supposed to be all her friends showering her with gifts and suprises.  If it's all runnning to costly to get folks to go there (and if so you can be sure there will no shows, which might be a downer for the BTB) then I suggest you pick a more accesible location.

In short, try to do what you have to do so the BTB won't have to put out a penny (unless she absolutely insists on helping), even if it means changing the location.

Answer 11

SPLIT THE Cost for her trip, you are her mates right, give her a good send off she wont forget

Answer 12

Split the cost and stop being a tight-fisted whinger.

Oh sorry, I thought you were whinging about costs. :)