Her Father Left us!!

Question

I am the proud mother of a beautiful baby girl that is going to turn one on August 17. Her father left me 2 weeks after I told him I was pregnant and to this day has never seen his little girl. I have begged and pleaded with him to see his daughter but he says he is not ready for the responsibility. He and I had discussed this and we both agreed long before I was pregnant that we would never put a child through this because both of us had been abandoned by our fathers. Now I am so lonely and the only thing that keeps me going is this little precious baby that I have. I keep praying that he will see her, will you pray for this with me please??? Thank you!!!

Answer 1

Do you want him to be there for her or for you?  Sounds like it is YOU who wants him to come back.

You can take him to court to force child support but why do you want to force someone to see her (or you) who is clearly not interested.  

You need to take control of your life and work towards building it for the two of you.  

You cannot control other people's actions, only your own reactions.  

Answer 2

i was only 20 when i got pregnant with my first child. i was in a new relationship, and my boyfriend at the time insisted that i get an abortion because he didnt want to have anything to do with a child at this age. i ended things with him when i was only 2 1/2 months pregnant. i went through my whole pregnancy and labor without him. i relied on my family and friends to help me through, and lived with my parents during my whole experience. right after my son was born my ex (the father) told me he didnt want any rights to him, and that he would sign over his rights to me.

It was so scary for me at first. when i got pregnant i didnt have a car or insurance. i lived with my parents, and i worked at a fast food restaraunt. i didnt know how i could ever do this.

my son is now turning 1year old in just a couple weeks. i have my own apartment, a great new job, and a beatiful child with an incredible personality. I have a new boyfriend now, who has graciously taken on the responsibility of my son.

i grew up never knowing my real father too. and even though i would like my son to know who his real father was, i know now that my son is better off without a father who doesnt want him. i know now that i can do this alone, and i dont need a man to take care of me or my child.

i know its gonna be scary, but you can do it. if you love your daughter, then thats all you and her both need.

best of luck to you!

Answer 3

i will, i feel 4 u alot just like i do with my mate she went through the same thing her daughter is now 3 + aint seen her dad yet who only lives 5 min down the road, men have 2 start being more responsible xx

Answer 4

I'll send a prayer your way but even if it is answered-he might not see her until she graduates med school or for the birth of her own daughter. Move on with your life and forget the daddy for now- it will be the best for you both. Good luck.  

Answer 5

I hope he grows up and comes to his senses. I'll pray for the precious baby because a father figure is so important for a little girl. My daughter went through the same thing. He left before my granddaughter was born and she is now 7,  and in those 7 years she has only seen her dad about 6 times.  Its sad because he now has another daughter that lives with him and shes always asking why she doesn't have a dad. She doesn't even know him. I hope he comes around for her sake.

Answer 6

did you take his trifling butt to court?  He may not want to see her, but if it were me, he WOULD help take care of her.

Answer 7

No, I'm sorry but I will not pray for your ex to see your daughter.  Why?  Because your ex is a scum bag.  He abandoned his child, and will most likely never be a consistent, responsible father figure to her.  I will pray that another man comes along who will be a father to her and will love her unconditionally, though.  Good luck.

Answer 8

you cant force him to be a father or to be with you. why would you want to?

move on with your life and be strong for your baby. find a good man that will support you and your child financially and emotionally.