Her and my ex-boyfriend....Why does this bother me? Am I being weird?

Question

My ex-boyfriend and I dated pretty much all through high school, and now we're still close friends. Its been a couple years now, and I have a new boyfriend who I even live with, but still- A girl who isn't necessarily my "friend," but more of an aquaintance, but anyways she's kinda going after my ex. And its weird to me.

I know he's going to date whoever he wants, and I'm totally fine with that, that's totally fine- its just weird to think of him with someone who I know- its not like she and I are super close or anything, but we just like party together and stuff.

Is it weird that I feel this way? It actually really bothers me that she's kinda going after him. They "made out".... and that was a weird image in my head.

What can I do? Is this weird, or normal? Help!!

Answer 1

I like the first answer, just gotta let go..

Answer 2

Jealousy and possessiveness are normal.

Let your ex-guy go.  You don't own him.

He likes your friend because... she's his type.  You were his type.  She's a bit like you.

http://www.amazon.com/Letting-Go-12-Week...

Answer 3

You've enjoyed his attentions even though you've moved on with your life.  What you're feeling is envy and fear.  You don't like the idea you might lose - or are losing - his attentions to this other woman.  And you fear that if the relationship between them becomes serious, your relationship with him will suffer and you're not willing to step aside, so to speak.

Well, you've enjoyed the best of two worlds and it's normal to feel threatened by change.  If he hasn't been in a serious relationship since you two broke up, then try to be happy for him - he's finally moving on, just as you did.

Answer 4

It's normal, and you will get over it.  Even though there have been years since you have been together, you certainly don't want to think of him with anyone else, lease of all someone who you are not fond of.  But like you, he has moved on, and the fact that you two are still close friends, is a good sign, that you both are mature and adults.  I applaud your strength and maturity!