Here's a question about adoption!

Question

is it a waste of time looking for my biological parents and family or is it totally worth it to find out where i came from? i really want to know more about them and what they look like and stuff but i dont want to be disappointed? i just want people's opinions about it.

Answer 1

i think you should go for it and look for you r real parents, but if you dont find them or u couldn't get any info about it, you shouldn't care much

Answer 2

I think you should do it. You really have nothing to lose and everything to gain. A friend of mine found out some things about her mom and although they weren't really great it at least made a good story. It's part of your life and part of your story.

Answer 3

i was going to be adopted as my mum had an affair when married and i was the result and but my mum changed her mind.

i know how you feel, i never really bovered but i know who my mum was so suppose its different.

the sperm donor i have wanted to see him somtimes thought about it.

best not to have no expectations then you will not be disappointed, when you meet them and wont feel let down, cos you must feel let down in a way to begin with the fact they did that.  they were younger then and may have made the wrong decisiion. theirs a hundred reasons why,  they might be have mental problems cannot take responsibility. might of had pressure from family been young.  i would not have any expectations, then you wont feel let down. you might want answers and not get them, they might deny things but then again they might be lovely people and you might have lots of nice brothers and sisters so i would tread carefully protect yourself cos you dont want to be hurt anymore.

Answer 4

Your feelings are understandable, but there are many questions to answer before you go forward. First, you know your bio mother loved you because she did the most unselfish thing a mother could do - give you up to a good home. BUT, what if that mother never told her current family about you? It gets complicated, talk to an adoption counselor about it.

Answer 5

Hey fellow adoptee. That is a very personnel question.

I searched and located my biological family. I can't say much for my parents. However I got a great Aunt, Uncle and Two Cousins out of the biological side.

I will not lie to you...I found mine and it was a let down for me. However I am a better person now for knowing where and what I have came from. It makes me feel better for who I am not. :)