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Question

Me and my Fiance are very much in love and had planned to get married in April 2010.

1- As we need to save £5,000 which we agreed as a budget

and 2- As it was ample time to sort a wedding out, without the rush.

We are now in a predicament as we are unsure on what to do now.

We have been chatting for some time now about starting a family and moving into our own house (rented - until our credit repairs).

So my question is which do you think would be a better way to do things?? Or if you have any suggestions please let me know.

Do we go with the original plan of getting married in April 2010, with lots of guests and it being expensive, and have the dream wedding, then save further to get the deposits for a home, and then save more money to be able to provide for our baby.

OR

Do we get married sooner on a smaller budget with just close family at the wedding and sit down meal, allowing us more money in the bank to be able to move out quicker from our parents and start a family?

Answer 1

My fiance and I put our plans to get married back after I fell pregnant. Our son is 6 months now and we have just started looking at marrige again. We are having a wedding and reception with about 100 people attending and are doing it all for under £2000 - that is for everything - as we found a venue that are held in very high regard but are so cheap (even the idea of spending that much when we have a little one and are renting our flat sounds silly to us, but we are lucky from having family contributions and friends in bands who will play and DJ). I think if you want to start a family that much then that is what you should save for. Weddings are a special day but at the end of it spending thousands on just one day when there are other things you really want may not be that great. Remember, it does not matter where you have it, or what trimmings you have, as long as you have all the people you want there then your wedding will be fabulous. You will have the fun memories of the day regardless of how much you spend.

Answer 2

Marriage is about two people,not a big fancy,exspensive ceremony..The money will be better spent on something to improve your future.....................

Answer 3

First of all, congratulations! It's always fab when some one gets engaged.

If I were you, I would get married before you have kids. You have to be able to live your life first, and that means having the wedding you have always dreamed of. You're still young and have plenty of time to have kids.

If the money situation is the reason you are'nt having kids, perhaps wait for a while until you are financially ready. Kids are expensive, believe me!

Have the wedding you and your fiance want. Then you are together forever and have all the time in the world to make sure that you're ready.

Plus, you want your current figure for that gorgeous wedding dress... :)

Answer 4

Most definitely go with the smaller wedding. Save your hard earned money and use it for your life, not on food and wine for your friends.  They can buy their own food and wine!

You are obviously not one of these girls who have dreamed about your dream wedding your whole life or you would not even be considering this question.  Trust me, from another girl who thinks like you, I totally regret the cash I wasted on my wedding.  I mean it was nice and all but it was gone in a flash, leaving only a hangover behind.  Take your money and start your life right.  It will help in lots of financial arguments and strain the marriage later.

Answer 5

If you have alot of debt,dont get married yet.Clear that and than do it.

Answer 6

i say definitely smaller budget with just close family. there is no point in saving up all this money just to have it all be spent on one day. it's more important to have money go toward a home and a baby.

Answer 7

The second one - if you are both mature and have dated a substantial enough of time, just move on and start your lives together being married.

Answer 8

big weddings are a waist of money

go to the justis of the peace get hitched

Answer 9

My opinion would be to go with the smaller wedding.  Small wedding are still very very lovely.  That way like you said you can move out sooner and start a family sooner.  Also you can have a big wedding later if you wish.  Like for your 5th anniversary.

Answer 10

This is always a big decision but you have to think about your furture.

In 5 years will you be any less married if you spend £1000 then the person who spent £50,000 NO.

So how about you do something like wedding in the afternoon. Then go for a meal in a nice restaurant...nothing too fancy with close family and then organise a big party in the evening in a function room somewhere. most function rooms are cheap or free to hire....DJ = £100 and buffet...get your friends to sort it while your out with the family for lunch.

You'd probably be able to do the whole day for under £1500...and then have an extra £3500 for your house, and more babies :-)!!!

good luck x

Answer 11

Ive been engaged 3 years and getting married next year.

we bought a house which slowed things a bit...but we bbought it through family verrrryyyyyyy cheap.

i think if u give up your dream wedding youll regret it later.......youy have plenty of time to have a family but your only gonna get married once!!

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IF YOU DONT THINK YOU CAN AFFORD KIDS...

IF HE DOESNT EARN ENOUGH TO SUPPORT THE THREE OF YOU WHILE YOUR OFF WORK

DONT HAVE KIDS!!

Answer 12

Yes why not? No problem you can still wait until 2010.

Answer 13

you will regret it later if you spend too much money on the wedding, I think close family is the best idea for you so you can help raise your future children :)

xx

Answer 14

I think this depends entirely on what means more to you?  I got married at the end of March and had a big wedding.  Although I loved every minute, I don't think it would have been any less special to have done it small.  Realistically, £5000 isn't gonna get you that big a wedding either, so maybe ask around and see what it's gonna cost you.  I spent £7000 and did a lot of my wedding myself to cut costs.  Weddings are for one day, you've gotta think about the rest of your life with your husband.  (Plus, your wedding will be insignificant once you've had a baby!!!)  Good luck with whatever you choose and congratulations.  x