Here's the situation... My cousin and his "baby's mother" weren't doing to good soo...?

Question

MY mother adopted his son AND her son that had a different father. We have had them for over 9 years now.. Just recently, my cousing (the father of one of the boys) got out of jail and had another baby boy with a different girl. Shortly afterward he was incarcerated again. We have had the new baby over with us many times... but this time..<Long story short>.. we have had him over for almost 3 weeks with no call from the mother.. the father (my cousin) just recently got out again and ad been to visit about 3 times since he's been here...

Problem: I think that we are in the same situation again with haveing to adopt one of his kids.. we dont have a problem with it, but my mom has 5 kids of her own (including the 2 she adopted at first), so this makes 6! Any insight, words,or advice..?

Answer 1

You need to have a serious talk with that cousin about a vasectomy. Also arrange some rough spinal manipulation.

If you ask the right guys, they will do it for free.

Answer 2

its nice you&#039;re giving home to a lot of kids

Answer 3

Oh man, if you are happy with doing this, kudos to you.

Answer 4

Wow...  I&#039;m sorry, but I think my advice goes inline with the rest.  Your cousin needs serious help.  Maybe you could arrange an &quot;accident&quot; with a pair of scissors.  (Ok, that was a joke, but seriously he needs a reality check!)  

In one way, it&#039;s bad to keep picking up the slack for him because then he&#039;ll never learn.  On the other hand, when the slack is a real, living child, it&#039;s impossible to just let it drop.

Is there any way that instead of &quot;adopting&quot; this child your family could somehow just get custody and make the &quot;parents&quot; pay child support?  It&#039;s sorta a cruddy way to go about it, but maybe if you hit him in the pocket book he&#039;d start to pay attention to where he put some of his other assets.

Answer 5

Perhaps your cousin should get a vasectomy. I think you guys are wonderful people to take care of your cousins sons.

Answer 6

Blessings on you and you mother, for loving these babies!  It must be tough! Too bad we don&#039;t have mandatory steralization in this country!