Hes going to propose!! Help!?

Question

This weekend my boyfriend and I are going to my parents for dinner & we're going to cook it and take it over. My question is, he wants to ask my dad to marry me. Would it be appropriate for him to ask? They really like my boyfriend and we've been together for almost 2 years now. I'm just worried that my mom and dad might be taken aback by it. How should he go about it? Like should he wait until I'm not near? Or what? He can't go on his own because he can't drive (He is blind in one eye) so its impossible for him and my dad to have a chat with me not around 100%. Should he take the ring he has picked out and show my parents? He's nervous about asking them, do you have any pointers for him?

Answer 1

I think it would be sweet if he asked your parents in front of you, unless you think for some reason they might say no.  it sounds like they would have no problem and they'd be happy for you.  once they say yes, if your bf wants to give you the ring then and there, tell him he can do that or if he'd rather propose to you in private he can do that at a later date.

Answer 2

Aw, how sweet! My fiance did this and I really liked it :) I dont think you should be around when he asks, but I am sure your fella can get your parents in one room and you go into another. Get him to do it while you wash up or something!! :) :)

I think your mum and dad will appreciate it as well, it shows major courage and respect towards them, having him ask. He can take the ring if he wants - show your parents how serious he is about you two.

Tell him that it will be really scary but once it is over, he can look to the future of you and him together. If your parents like him like you say they do, he probably has no worries about them saying no. Get him to tell them how he feels about you and that he wants to be with you forever but he wanted their permission to propose first becuase he respects them. Good luck!!

Answer 3

Frankly, I think asking the father if you could marry their daughter implies ownership.  I personally don't feel that it is respectful at all to the woman unless you are contemplating an arranged marriage (where she doesn't actually have a choice anyway).

Some people think it's all romantic, but given that it hasn't been all that long when women WERE basically owned by a father or husband, perpetuating this stupid practice is just harmful. My suggestion is BOTH of you tell your parents that you are getting married.  

By the way, I am also blind in one eye and can drive.  He should find a driving school that specializes in helping those with disabilities drive.  There are MANY people who drive who have vision in only one eye.

Answer 4

That's a great thing to do. It's old fashioned but so sweet!  He can take your father aside and ask him in private. Tell him how much he loves you and wants to spend his life with you. Nice touch if he takes the ring to show them also.  Or you could "go to the store" and he could have your dad AND mom alone for a few minutes to ask. Us mothers really like to be in the process too! Especially when it comes to our little girls!

Good luck and congratulations!

Answer 5

Not a good time. He needs to do it at some time when they can be alone - when you can drop him off and you go shopping!

No, he doesn't show the ring. He's asking for a blessing, basically. Hopefully they know him well enough to know if he's a good dude for you or not.

Answer 6

My fiance was playing video games with my dad, I went out to do some errands and while I was gone he asked him if it was okay, my dad was really excited, and they went back to playing video games.

It's really a good thing to do.

Answer 7

Hehe.. relax!!  That's great that he's asking your dad - that is truly wonderful.  Let it happen and enjoy it... this is a BIG moment for you!  My husband did the same and he asked and I didn't even know about it.  He didn't have the ring then, but if your bf decides to show them that's up to him.  Either way, they're going to see it ;)

Some pointers:  Just have him be respectful.. maybe write down a few reasons why he wants to marry you and he can say that to them. What he wants to offer you, how much he loves you, of course, are good things to tell them. :)

TC

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Answer 8

It is appropriate for him to inform your parents and to ask their blessing, as this shows that he respects that you are important to them. It is not appropriate for him to ask their permission, as that would imply that it is not your consent but theirs which matters.

Answer 9

I just recently did it, But my fiancee walked out of the room while me and my father in-law were talking.

let him know how that you 2 were talking about marriage and that he wants his blessing, he wants to marry you...all that good stuff I dont care if he approved(even though i knew he would 100%) because i love her and nothing will stop me. Tell him to inforrm your dad on your plans for the future, they want to hear that!