Hes my dad, I have to respect him no matter what?..?

Question

Seriously ******* annoying phrase my mom said to me. Just because i hate him for the following reasons. UN EDUCATED GUY WHO DARES TO CALL ME STUPID JUST FOR NOT WANTED TO USE AN [ITEM] AND OTHER REASONS. . Talks behind my back that i could care less about school, that im to stupid to now knowing how to use a folder.. WTF?

HE ditched our family and went to his home country to play and cheated on my mom. Funny how my mom allowed him to come back.

He has over 20k debt to pay.. and my mom had to sold her diamond ring to

help pay back hes debts. SERIOUSLY BAD MISTAKE.

MAN, DO I STILL HAVE TO RESPECT THIS SO CALL DAD?

Answer 1

Your grammar helps make his point.

Answer 2

Respect has to be earned.  But you should be civil to your dad even if you don't like him, if only to not upset your mom.  I don't know why women take men like your dad back--they lack so much and make life so complicated and unsatisfactory, but your mom did and you have to deal with it.  Since I'm assuming you still love and care about your mom, try to at least be civil to your dad (like you would to any guest in your home).  You can't do anything about his lousy attitude; he obviously has problems.  Make sure you don't become like him, study hard and get your education so you won't end up like him.  Let him be your lesson of how NOT to be a man.

Answer 3

Because she is still attached to him and can't understand why you aren't.  I'm on your side, but her issue is that she loves him too much too see the harm he has done.

Answer 4

You should...someday you'll realize that you've made a lot of mistakes too, and you'll forgive him.

I think all of us would like to live our lives again and not do half the stupid things we did...

Life goes on and we learn every day. Don't be too angry with him. He's probably a nice guy despite what you feel...

Answer 5

I wouldn't think you have to respect him if you don't want to...

Answer 6

no, they must respenct u for u to respect them, i not only feel really bad fer u but i also feel for your mom, she must really luv him, but that doesn't mean u have to too, good luk!

Answer 7

there's nothing saying that you have to.

you have to love the guy, you don't have to like him.

anything other than that, you can do whatever you want with.

seriously, if he's a jerk, he doesn't deserve respect, so why bother with it.

:3

Answer 8

well, if  you hate it so much why don't you move out and not be aggravated by him any more!!!!!!!!  

and what ever your mom decides about HER HUSBAND is none of your business!!!

Answer 9

So... wait a minute -- How old are you? And how old is your dad?

Your dad is alot older than you, and therefore is wiser. And just for that you should respect him.

Answer 10

I will have to say no. Trust AND Respect both have to be earned. Not just by the kids in a family, but the parents also. I'm sorry you are in such a situation, but keep your head held high, and continue your education. A dad is only as good as the example he sets. I know, I'm a dad, and my kids are grown and turned out pretty da*n good if I say so myself.  

Answer 11

No you do not.  Parents must also earn respect.  

However, you do owe it to your Mom not to aggravate the situation even more.  Continually fighting with the man will not make the situation better for any of you.  Do you best to ignore him, knowing that his opinion is not worth anything to you.  Do what you can to stay out of the house and away from him as much as possible until you can leave home.  You can't control what your Mother does, you can only control yourself and how you react to any given situation.  Stay in control.