Hes telling me im not good enough?

Question

My ex is making me really mad because I told him I wanted to join the swim team and he said " eh, I don't really think you would be that good. I wouldn't do it." Then he started telling me about how I have no goals or anything I really want to do. Its really making me mad because I got #6 in the county on backstroke out of 45 people. What should I come back and say to him? He's pissing me off.

Answer 1

You should tell him to go to h**l.  If you want to try out for the swim team then do it dont let your jerk bf stand in your way.  Of course even though he is a jerk he is at least honest to you.  Anyway do what you want to do, dont let anyone stand in your way and most important have fun.

Answer 2

Um...quit talking to him for your own sanity. Does it really matter what he thinks? You know what you want and where you are going..hopefully it's not with him.  

Answer 3

Ok Girl, have it straight...No guy or other person has the right to tell you're not good enough...you yourself can say that to yourself...but nobody has the right to tell you that....

Anyways advices are:

Ignore what others think of you.

You'll be alright, dont believe em.

Prove em that you're good, GOOD:

Mostly ignore the "you're not good enough" and dont feel so bad about it...You're good enough to be YOU!..

Good Luck!...Anything else you just ask, I will surely answer and give you encouragement...

Answer 4

the key word in this is your EX wake up this is what you tell him FU** OFF! he will prob not care at you but do it loud and proud and his face will turn red.

Answer 5

Tell him that he is an ugly stupid loser and you wouldn't want to spend another minute talking to a jealous idiot like him.

Answer 6

tell him to "%&$! off"

i think he would get the point. :D  

Answer 7

he's not worth your time. he is trying to just give you negative attention, so obviously he thinks you are too good to just leave out in the cold because he is continuing to talk to you even if it means putting you down...its makes him feel better.

Answer 8

forget him. igore him he's a jerk.

Answer 9

Why are you still in contact with someone that treats you that way?  He is no friend of yours if he makes comments like that, so why keep him around?  I would let him know that you are only interested in having supportive friends around.

What concerns me most, is why are you letting someone dictate to you whether you are good enough or not?  You should have more faith in yourself and not be looking outside for reassurance, that can come from within yourself.

Answer 10

Don't listen to this guy.  Find positive people to be around.  If you're #6 out 45 that's pretty good and you should go for it!  But you don't need a man to tell you what to do anyways.  Whether he thinks you're good enough or not go for it!!

Answer 11

He iis just jealous. there isn't anything you can say to change his mind... I'm a swimmer too.... 500 free :)

Answer 12

He's only saying you're not good enough because you're his ex.

Answer 13

Stop talking to him

Why would you want someone so negative in your life?

Answer 14

Just prove him wrong, then rub it in his face.

Answer 15

I wouldn't say anything. I'd go join the swim team and do what I want to do. Swimming is great...stress relief, good exercise, fun. Go for it!

He's probably just saying that because he has no accomplishments of his own and it makes him feel weak that you're doing something and he's not. I'm glad he's your ex....he sounds like a loser.

Answer 16

I wouldn't bother saying anything to him. He's not your friend and he doesn't have your best interests at heart. Cut off this relationship, because it's not doing anything for you.

Answer 17

dont say n e thin hes a prick

Answer 18

tell him that he should support you - not bring you down- that he is hurting your feelings- and tell him quit talking to me if you are going to say negative things to me because I don't need to hear your b.s.

Answer 19

Just ditch him as a friend, say something like this "you know, when I broke up with you I thought we could be friends, but I decided you are not a good friend either. See ya!!!"

Answer 20

Don't listen to him...hence the reason he is an EX!

Answer 21

WHY let a man control you if you want to do something DO IT> s***w him hes trying to control you. It does not sound like a good man to date. Any man who tells you your not good enough or stops you from doing something or even stops you from seeing friends is trying to control you so he knows he has you locked. But yet he can do everything and anything he wants. JUST DO IT and if he dont like it LOSE HIM!!

Answer 22

Ok first off he's an insecure jerk that you shouldn't be talking to anymore. Positiv e people are better!

Answer 23

dont tell him anything it lets him know hes getting to you.

just do what you wnat to do.

you know who YOU are

NOT HIM

hes your ex and it good you wnat to be friends but is he treats you like that hes not worth a friendship either.