Hesitant about child driving?

Question

I am 16 and i just got my permit. well my mom is being real hesitant to let me drive, i tell her that i can drive her to the store and she says "ha yeah right, i'll have a heart attack. Well i have until May of 2009 until i get my license but is it normal for her to be acting like that? Did any parents here feel hesitant about your child driving? Are there any teens here that have parents that acted like this?? My mom will let me drive soon but she is being really nervous about it.

advice??

Answer 1

Your mother has every right to be worried. After my Mom raised 4 boys through the driver's ed years, she has vowed that my twin 12 year old brothers won't get their licenses until they're 18. I'm sure she'll mellow out, but it's a horribly stressful time for any parent. There are constant stories in the news of teens dying young in car accidents. Your Mom is just trying to protect you.

Answer 2

start looking in the papers for your own car and circle ones leave the paper out so she sees it then she will freak out because she wont want you to have your own car and say that way you want have to drive her car watch her change her mind

Answer 3

She will calm down in time.  Worried mothers can be that way.  Explain to her that it is hurting you. Eventually should should loosen up when she sees how well you drive.  Also would you want a back seat driver making you panic and causing you to not react right on the road? who needs that stress and lack of confidence when that happens.

Answer 4

yeah my mother was like that too and i am 18. and i have my license not my permit. the first time she ever been in the car with me was when i was practicing to get my license. she wouldnt let me drive her car or my dads. until one day i had to drive her car to school for open house and she finally calmed down and now i drive every day. id say just give her some time it takes some getting used to.

Answer 5

Oh, yes I can relate with your mom.  I am a nervous driver to begin with so when my son wanted me to let him drive, I pretty much reacted the same way your mom did and the first time I did allow my son to drive, my fingers were wrapped so tightly around the door handle that I had to pry them off and my leg hurt from constantly having to slam on that make believe break on the passenger's side. Not to mention the sore throat I had from yelling at him and the bad headache he had from listening me! He's 23 today and I still do not like to drive with him and the funny thing is that most people tell me that I am a lousy driver.  You figure it out and then give your mom a break.

Sincerely

  

Answer 6

I was the exact same way with my stepdaughter when she got her permit, which is odd, because I was really looking forward to teaching her how to drive.  I'm still like that, now, even though she's 17 and has her license.  

But, I'm also nervous when I'm in the car and *anyone else but me* is driving.  So, while your mother might be nervous because you are inexperienced, it could also just be, at least in part, just part of her personality.  

Advice?  Ask her to take you out to practice driving somewhere kind of safe, like a big empty parking lot.  That's what my mom did with my siblings & I.  Also, when you *do* get a chance to drive with her in the car, make sure you show her that she can trust you to be careful & make good driving decisions.  Make sure you let her know that you respect the danger involved & are doing your best to learn how to be safe & polite on the road.  

Answer 7

Drive her around in a parking lot first before heading out on the streets. Drive slow and carefully. Best of luck!

Answer 8

yeah parents are like that im 18 and they still will not let me get mine  

Answer 9

Tell your mom you want her help teaching you because one day she won't be in the car with you and you will be all on your own driving so if she really wants you to do the right things she needs to tell you what they are.

Answer 10

can i offer you some advice? let her take you to a parking lot and let you show her you can drive, shes just nervous, give us old peops a break

Answer 11

My mom was the same way.  Tell her that you really want to become a safe driver but you need some actual practice before that can happen.  Say you will listen to any direction she gives you and will try to become as good a driver as she is. But nix that last part if your mom doesn't fall for flattery. Be persistent,  but not too annoying with your requests to drive.   Do you have an aunt, uncle or cousin she would trust you to drive with?

Answer 12

No, most of us just grinned and bared it and I'm happy to say we are still alive. Give her a few weeks to grow accustomed to the idea and she will probably let up. Good luck!

Answer 13

Dude you and me are in the same boat!  I'm supposed to get my license this December and my mom was being SO difficult.  She wouldn't let me drive ANYWHERE!  I tried to talk to her about it many times, but what really made her change her mind was when we had a huge argument over it.  Now she lets me drive her anywhere.  I think you should just tell her that you're growing up and it's a priority for you to drive.  Ask her if she could at least take you to an empty parking lot so she can teach you the basics about driving.  Once she trusts that you're ready for the road, she will let you take that extra step.  Good luck.

Answer 14

My dad took me to the graveyard to learn how the gas and brake felt.  Then I took Driver's Ed, then all I could do was drive country roads.  Once I got my license he just let me go.  He was too afraid to disappoint me.  Now, me personally, my child will be 18 because stuff happens and I want her to be an "adult" if she chooses the wrong choices.  

Answer 15

my mother was the worst person when i started driving shed make me nervouse and make me drive like 10k/s under my limit my sussgestion would be to get a more relaxed person to let you drive i took a few lessons with my uncle in his car and he was like"stuff it man your on the highway just do the speed limit like everyone else" having a relaxed person with you will make all the difference.trust me. dont worry your mum will get over it ..:)