Hey! Why do most people here tell the questioners that their parents do love them when CHILD ABUSE is REAL?

Question

We know child abuse does exist, some of you may even have donated money to the children protection charity.

Then how come (if you have been reading the posts here) that 90% of the answerers tell people that their parents DO love them ?????

Answer 1

Because maybe they do love their kids but can't control their temper? Idk... I know sometimes people don't word their questions right so answerers don't understand what they are going through? Your right though, child abuse is very real and it should never be taken lightly.

Answer 2

Because 90% of the questions are by questioners who think their parents are abusing them by not letting them have a cellphone, or giving them a curfew, or saying no to boyfriend sleeping over while they are underage.

Yes, child abuse is real. But a parent not giving a child everything they want is not child abuse, and that's what most people here who tell a questioner that their parents love them are responding to.

Answer 3

Abuse is abuse.  And if a child is being abused at the hand of his/her parent, love is definitely missing from that equation and the child needs to be removed from that environment.  If you love something, you don't hit it.  Period.  No one has the right to put their hand(s) on some one else, least of all in an abusive manner and especially on a child that is fully dependant on the abuser.  Losing a temper is one thing, but abuse does not have to follow...and abuse is always unacceptable and always wrong and it always needs to be reported and dealth with.

To the person asking this question, are you in an unsafe or abusive environment right now?  Are you OK?  Can you post an additional comment to let us know you are alright?  I'm just a little concerned for you...   Obviously we are in agreement.

Answer 4

You need professional training to identify abuse.  There are different categories in terms of child abuse.  A glance at a single incident described so concisely (like the ones on this site)is not enough information.  Just google the term and you can even sign up for online classes for that -if you are really interested in learning instead of just airing personal opinion.

Here are a few classes you can take with a small fee:

http://www.childabuseworkshop.com/

http://www.universalclass.com/i/crn/7550...

Answer 5

Child abuse i feel is an illness with in the parents.  my mom went to counseling and was able to keep us. I remember telling them that she loved me. My mom used to over spank us and stuff. After the parent hits on the child a lil while, he or she tells the child that they love them. which to the parent they think this is normal. Which to someone else it is not.

its hard to say really. Maybe it is fear of what is going to happen when they come home with the parent?

Answer 6

Ok, no one is arguing the existence of child abuse.  However, I have to point out that a lot of the "is this abuse?" type questions on this site are along the lines of "my mom grounded me and won't let me use the internet or see my boyfriend because she caught us having s*x, I'm 14 he's 20."

Yes, I made that up as an example.  In a case like that, it would be the mother/parent protecting the child out of love, and not abuse.  

And as someone else said, abuse does not necessarily indicate a lack of love, just a terrible way of showing it.

Answer 7

Of course child abuse is real.  

I read your previous Q&A to get a feel for if you are really concerned about child abuse or just one of those people who like to tell others how to raise their children.

Under the question: Why do some people say that spanking is bad?  This was your response:

  Children have as much rights as adults. So, imagine the reverse. Do you think it is okay if a parent get spanked by a child when s/he's done something wrong? And don't tell me that your parent has never ever done something wrong.

To those who were spanked at childhood : what were you spanked for? and can you think of incidents where your parent did something wrong in the same magnitude of seriousness? Could you have spanked him/her?????

So after reading your response to this question, I have concluded that you are a nut case.

Answer 8

Different people take different things as abuse. Your parent can still love you and be abusing you. It depends on who is judging the abuse sometimes.

Like spanking, grounding so on...