Hey all~ does anybody have any ideas/suggestions that would spark up my parents' love life? Thanks! :p?

Question

I just thought my parents' love life is getting pretty dull, I mean they've actually recently been pretty mean to eachother lately and when they're not they're either ignoring eachother or being mean to/about other people, &&i think they're relationship it pretty unhealthy. Whilst I'm going to try to be a better kid of course :p, could there be any way I could be sneaky and drop hints here and there that my parents could pick up and have some ideas and be a little more lovey-dovey and friendly with eachother?

I know they may need'proffesional help' but it's always good to give effort taking small steps at a time. Well at least that's what I think...

Well thanks anyway! :)

Answer 1

You know what?!  I was going to try to give you some "rah, rah" answer to help. . .BUT. . .when a married couple doesn't love each other any more. . .there really ISN'T much you can do!  That's why people (couples) get a divorce on grounds of "irreconcilable" differences.  Sometimes. . .there just ISN'T any way to get the "feelings" back. . .and you may well have to recognize and accept that.

They're ADULTS!  They KNOW they need to do SOMETHING before it all just goes to h**l forever.  Let them know you love them and support them.  But figuring out what's wrong with their relationship is THEIR problem. . .NOT yours.  And THAT'S the bottom-line!

Answer 2

I think it's great that you are concerned about your parents.You should probably let them sort out their own troubles. So, make them a nice dinner w/ candles tell them your concerns then disappear & let them get on with it

Answer 3

Poor thing, I think my 18 year old daughter is going through the same thing with me and her father. Its not that we mean to be mean, we're just too lazy to be nice and funnily enough, other people feel it more than we do. I guessed that one day when my daughter was brushing my hair and she commented airily, 'Mom, do you know, Dad told me you're awesome?'

Answer 4

I am sorry to hear this, it can be a very stressful time for you and your siblings.

For a dramatic, yet reflective effect you could stage an 'intervention' where all the children (you & brothers & sisters) get together and put on a short show - story telling of following;

1. Story (your parents told you) of how your parents met, put up some pictures of when they where young, their wedding etc..Play their favourite song. Find out from your grandmother what was played at the wedding??

2. What it meant at each birth (put up some photos of your parents together holding each of their children).

3. Talk about & present pictures or video as reminder of 3 major funny or romantic events they have been through in the past years.

4. Each sibling puts up a photo & a phrase, word or poem, that reflects how you feel about your parents & the family. Your favourite memory.

Put all the photos up on a cork board (or poster), making a collage of the pictures together, with (cut out of magazines) words or headlines and pin to the board, creating it as you go through 1-4, then present to them as a gift from you children, and have them hang it in the family room or kitchen (breakfast room) where everyone can see it as a reminder.

Tell them you love them and really appreciate them as parents for what they have done for you and the family over the years, and in the future. This will help them refocus their attention to what matters most - you and your family.

If they do have personal issues within their relationship, they will need to work it out themselves, and should be doing so without effecting you or the children. By you letting them know how important they 'have been' and are in 'the family' should at least make them 'pull their socks up'

Good Luck.

Answer 5

tell them how you feel and what your observations have been.

maybe it will make them think about what they are doing.

Answer 6

If you are old enough to write this--I am gonna guess they have been together awhile,,, ----Best thing is to let them know that their attitudes toward one another is bothering you--and just straight up tell them what you would like to see happen--and tell them why---

Maybe this will cause them to look at themselves--make them at least behave more civil in front of you--and who knows--by seeing your concern-it may cause them to reach out to one another--But don't talk about it--as their love life--keep it out of the bedroom if you know what I mean--cause hey--you don't really know what goes on in there anyway?...at least I hope--Just talk to them--and let them know how you feel.

Answer 7

I am incredibly impressed that you are giving so much thought to your parents relationship!

I'm sure they still love each other, but sometimes other stresses of everyday life tend to be the focus and adults tend to neglect each other.  It doesn't mean that they have lost feelings, just they have forgotten how important they are to the relationship.

Why not cook them a lovely dinner and set a romantic scene.  Set the table for two, use the good china, light some candles.

Invite them by invitation and ask them to dress up nice.

Be their waitress for the evening but excuse yourself to a friends after you serve desert.

I'm sure they will love it and find some time to re connect.

Answer 8

K. You should make a special dinner for them and decorate the room  very romantically, then, let them be alone for a while. Always works. Hope this helps.