Hey do you have any stories or tips or suggestions on how i can get my kids to stop misbehaving every where?

Question

i need help i need ways to get my kids to behave i don`t beleave in physical punishment such as spanking and slaping one is 12 and the other one is 11

Answer 1

praise the when they are doing good. thank you for picking up that stuff off the floor wihtout beign asked etc.....

the positivity will work and then they will be less likely to  act up - and if they do hold them to some direct action- like switchign off the tv for a day

Answer 2

Sounds like they needed a few good swats on the tush when they were little. Now you have brats. Yeah, not spanking worked real well for ya huh? Do the rest of us a favor and leave them home.

Answer 3

well since they are 12 and 11 you can talk to them and tell them that misbehaving anywhere is what babies do and if they want to act like babies they will get treated like babies. take away things they enjoy like tv, computer, i pod things like that and don't just take them away for a day like a week or two. they are also old enough to be grounded and when you bring them out and the misbehave let them no right there on the spot " your grounded if you don't stop your wild behavior"

my brother is 13 and if he acts up my mom and dad just slap him on his head I know you said you dont use physical discipline but that's what my parents do and he is your kids age. my daughter is 3 and she gets a swat on her bum when she misbehaves there is nothing wrong with it as long as you don't use objects. a hand is enough

Answer 4

You need to be firm and have some kind of consequence for their behavior whether it be losing a certain privilege, having something taken away, being sent to bed earlier etc. Otherwise, they learn to walk all over you and FAST!

I've told many this. Lets say you have 120 dollars. You know you have a 100 dollar cable bill to pay on the first of every month, for you've been with this cable company for years. A "well raised" person is going to pay on the first of the month without any issues and knows that if they don't, they're going to run into trouble.

Now lets say you aren't "well raised", so you decide not pay on the first of the month. You get a notice the following week from the company telling you that you owe them money. Same letter every week and each week, you get the letter, look at it and throw it out. No one ever shuts off your cable, raises the bill, comes to your home etc. They may threaten, but nothing ever happens. There's no consequence for not paying the bill. Are you going to pay it? Probably not. You're punishment is getting a letter each week about it, something you can just throw away. Why bother?

Best Wishes =]

Answer 5

delegate! when doing errands give each one something to go do. Pay a bill go get a certain item. tell them they can earn an allowance by helping out or if you can't afford allowance offer things they enjoy like staying up an extra half hour, going to see a movie, going to a friends house or having a friend over. Offer to allow a friend to go with you as long as they behave. and if they don't behave give consequences like no tv or no phone calls and stick to it. kids are hard at times to handle but if you stick to it things will get better.

Answer 6

I only had one. When he was 16, he thought he could do what he wanted when he wanted and we were just there to pay his way. I had spanked him when he was younger, but not in years. He brought home 2 u 's on his report card. He had dropped from B's to U's. Like I said he was an only child with alot of toys. I took his new Jeep and locked it down in the garage, took his cellphone, disconnected his computer and put it in garage, took the keys to the jetski and the 4 wheeler.

I then started  driving him to school, I would answer his phone and explain he was grounded. I explained to him, he was a child. We kept his stuff for 3 weeks and for the next 3 week he had to bring in reports. If it wasn't good he didn't get his stuff back that week. He brought that stuff up fast. I also explained if this happened again (esp. with the attitude I would sale or give away all of his stuff. And he know I would to prove a point. Mean what u say. Set goals and boundries. And come down on them hard if they get out of line at all. But do it with love. I love my teenager, but when it is his sanity or mine I win every time. Because that is the way God intended it.

Answer 7

I think you should tell them that you are giving them one more chance to behave next time you go out, and if they dont, you are not going to take them out. They will likely ask you, "For how long?' Dont answer this question. Then they can just think okay, so we'll stay home for a little while, and then we'll go out again and missbehave. Just say you dont know how long.

If they missbehave again in public, do not take them out for a while. If they promise to behave you can say "No, i'm sorry- i cant take you kids anywhere..." Let them have time to be bored and really want to go out. After a while-at least a week if not more, you can 'reluctantly' say "Okay, i guess we'll try again and we'll see what happens."

Answer 8

you need to show  more discipline... if they are in public and they misbehave then you should take them from the situation (bathroom, outside the place) and explain to them that how they are acting is not okay.... if they don't act the way you want them to, to that then find things they like and use it as a priveledge.... (no TV for today or the week, no friends over... only staying in the house for the day) things like that.... or the old sit in the corner for 10 minutes staring at the wall

Answer 9

Well I would suggest that you dont bring them anywhere...lol

Answer 10

I would do the 1-2-3 Magic...it can be used on younger and older kids, and if you stick to it and be consistent it is awesome! It is what I use on my kids and it has seriously changed the way we live. I would go to the website and see if there are any seminars in your area, it is really an awesome program.