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i just got dismiss from my own family. they won't accept me for who i am. which is that i believe in god but don't believe in religion and i refused to fit in anything i don't feel good about like " PEOPLE IN THE RELIGION BELIEVE THAT A SUCCESSFUL WOMAN IS SOMEONE WHO IS MARRIED AND HAVE CHILDREN. i tried to make my family understand but they know me well enough to break me.

my mother told me yesterday that i am a failure because i am still not done with school and what i believe in, that if i died no body will take of my died body because i don't practice the religion. she said a lot yesterday, i just took it all in and she wouldn't even listen to me, i stayed calm and listen.

my heart is broken, i was so happy, but yesterday got me down but i am trying to pick myself up again, i want to tell you guys more, but it's too long.

now, well i never really had a family, because i was there for them but there weren't there for me, only needed me to help them. i am in college now and i am kind of having hard time focusing, sometimes i pay for school myself and they never gave me a penny to pay for my school, i am doing it all alone and paying rent and everything for myself. I WON'T GIVE UP ON SCHOOL BECAUSE ONE WAY FOR THE OTHER, I WILL BE SUCCESSFUL, IT'S JUST NOT MY TIME YET. a lot of words had been used to describe me. now i am done with my family, and mother just dismissed me like usual but i always go back but i am done, it's not healthy for me, I LEARN THAT ANYBODY WHO MAKE ME WANT TO TELL MYSELF IS NOT WORTH IT. i am done.

I am going to change my phone number, and move out of new york city to san francisco or hawaii because i always wanted to leave in theses place. i am just waited on my student loan to come throw. my whole life, i been rejected but i kept going back, i get it now.

I just needed to share some of my feeling a little.

Answer 1

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Answer 2

I really dont feel like reading all that but thanks for the 2 points.  Jeez, next time try not to type so much and maybe you will get a better answer...

Answer 3

Hang in there, kid. You are fine and thinking for yourself. Move if you must, but look at the financial costs of doing so.

There are lots of groups for people like us. Try American Atheists for one.

You must finish school. That is a given. You do not have to marry, produce children and follow what others tell you is the road to happiness and heaven.

Answer 4

Wow, sounds like my family deliberately and insatiably ignorant. You go girl why give a f*** about those who don't give a f*** you. Harsh but true. Perhaps in time......

Answer 5

enjoy the ride, but somewhere in all this I sense that you also didn't give your family a chance, so don't lay the blame solely on them. You are also at fault.

Answer 6

sorry you are having a hard time just keep going to school and finish that's the only way out of your family if you really feel you most get away. and you will also have a independent life that you can say I did it and all myself. and about your family they love you and want the best for you but sometimes they can be over protective. you don't have to be far from them to be happy remember we only have on mother and father no matter how they are to us if some happens to them we will regret it for ever so for now go do what u need to do and try to patch thing up in the short future.

Answer 7

my plan has always been to move far away, but wow, no offense but your mom doesn't know how to raise a kid. and that wasn't an insult to u :P and yea forget about that, there's so many idiotic people in the world, they kind of wreck it for us.

Answer 8

First of all.. I just want to say that I, myself, come from a similar family. No, they weren't religious, but small minded in a lot of areas until I stood up and told them what I thought.

It took me 25 years to come out to my mother about my sexuality and I found that difficult, because she can be a little flippant (i.e. accepting one day and like your parents the next). I also still find it difficult, because there are some family members who are still small minded about it.

Truth is, and this came from an old room mate I lived with, because my family annoyed the s#!t outta' me, the only thing parents really are good at are making babies. They create you, but you make yourself, and you will define yourself as you get older. You will grow stronger as you get older - those tears and frustrations will turn into unshakeable wisdom and iron clad beliefs which you will one day give to someone else. The only thing I wish for is for a planet free from small mindedness, but as you know and are experiencing right now in your own microcosm, it ain't happening.

My family are all Catholix, and my father later decided to become a Joho (how convenient!), which eventually broke the marriage up, because he was so enthralled with the whole thing and was telling my mother that she was doing the work of the devil, etc.. etc.. you know what I mean. I mean, this man basically dug his own hole, and now I haven't spoken to the pr!ck for over 15 years (the best 15 years of my life) So, from a young age, I've tried to look at things from an eagle's perspective (ie. no one BOOK is going to dictate my life), and to look at all the little intentions and motivations that keep people going. One of many conclusions is: this world is full of different energies and motivations.. Just take your own beliefs and ride with em.

Also, it's not just your family who are going to have different points of view, your friends and acquaintances probably will as well. So, just do what you like, live your own life cos no one's going to make you happy but your beautiful self!

Answer 9

it would seem as though you have enough faith in yourself to achieve what ever your goals are.It can be difficult when we are being pressured by others who are "over captivated" by religion.You just be positive about your goals,your family will come around eventually.

Answer 10

wow. im very sorry. maybe if you have a friend they can talk to you, and help you. thats what friends are for. maybe find a husband who likes you for who you are, and shares interests with you. then you will always have someone to talk to. i think moving out might just cause more trouble, because your family will probably try to find you.... but its your call. and if its seriously that bad, get help, or moving would be the choice. best of luck! :D

~claudia

Answer 11

Good For you :)

-Go to Hawaii, it's so much cooler there. I wish i was going with you  

Answer 12

kay, calm down.

personally, i believe that religion is a staple of life, but i also believe everyone should have their own opinion. i don't think religious people think women are only happy when they're married and have kids (maybe some, but not all).

h**l, look at Mother Theresa. She wasn't married but was very religious.

don't give up on them 2 soon. maybe, in time, they'll come 2 respect ur opinions.

maybe in a little while u should sit them down and tell them what you've been going through.

but if they keep on hurting u like this, maybe it's best 2 forget about them.  

Answer 13

hope you feel better now, it's good for your sanity to vent every now and again. good luck in the future.

Answer 14

If you think I am going to read all of that, Think again.

Answer 15

Good for you that you stay true to yourself. You'll be back on top when you get out of that horrible environment and meet more desent people like yourself. I reckon it's better to focus on school when you know what you want to aim for anyway.