Hey... i dont know if anyone can answer this...?

Question

Over the past year ive gotten in trouble in school. only recently i was on probation and then got in trouble again. i am waiting to find the outcome monday. the safest bet is that i will be suspended(the situation wasnt that serious, it was just blown way out of perportion). my mother keeps bringing it up and putting the pressure of her troubles on me at the same time. just a few moments ago after this happened i hit a pole under the rail while going down the stairs and it snapped into two pieces. i have two questions:

1. How do i make it up to my mom?

2. How do i get her to stop bringing it up? (i tried talking to her about it before butshe wouldnt listen.)

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Answer 1

oh just deal with it ...u will be grown soon....i went thru all of this with my mom..i am so happy that i am now 20 and can hang up on her when she gets on my nerves...lol but it seems like just yesterday i was 12..

Answer 2

Just leave her that way talking 2 people like that is like talking 2 a bush, Just write down what happened and she'll have 2 pay 4 it say u r very sorry ask her 4 forgiveness, etc

Answer 3

Don't SAY you will do this or that, just do it. When there is a pattern of behavior, words won't cut it, trust me, I am married,and it takes more than good intentions, it takes good actions. Prove your love to mom,and show her. Actions speak louder than words. Make the difference.

Answer 4

shut-up and behave..

Answer 5

Earn her trust back by behaving.

Do some chores or something to show

her that you are responsible.

Remind her that you love her.

That's what I do when I get in trouble.

Answer 6

you are not clear----not enough detail---the broken pole can be replaced---they cost about 4 dollars at home depot --just measure the height and get the right lenght---or get one and have it cut down to proper lenght---as for bringing it up---maybe telling her that--talking about it over and over is not bringing a cure to the problem---then remind her it only stirs her anger back up---making it up to her?-----stay out of trouble---get better grades---you know right from wrong--stay out of trouble---think before you do something, think of the out come will be---never assume you can get away with it---or no one will catch you---follow the rules

Answer 7

Well it isn't going to stop until you find out what is going to happen. Next you need to take responsibility for what you did. Next calm down and don't raise your voice at your mother, that is only going to make things worst. She is stressed because she doesn't know what is going to happen. Also remember to listen to what your mother has to say. I know it might be hard but maybe she needs to blow off some steam too.GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Well...first...number 2 there, is looking at it in the wrong direction.  YOU can't get HER to do anything.  She's the parent.  Try apologizing and telling her you're going to make it up to her.  Offer to help pay and fix it.  Assure her nothing like this stuff will happen again...and then don't let it.

Answer 9

Dear Al,

You know, Al, just the fact that you're asking people here  'how you can make it up to your Mom' says something really good about about you, Al.  You care enough about your mother's feelings to want to do something about them. [ I'm a mother myself--I wish I were so lucky]!

1.  Re:  'How to make it up to your mom.' ?  Whatever you did that got you in trouble in school, Al, simply RESOLVE NOT to do it any more, Al, and MEAN  it.   That's the most important thing you can do, and that's the best way you can make it up to your mother.

2. Now regarding your mother's behavior--and here is where she hopefully will take some responsibility.  Tell you mother that you need her support now, not her criticism.  Constant criticism from your mother only hurts both of you and helps neither of you.  In fact, if you can, just print out both your question and my answer here (perhaps all peoples' answers) for your mother to read herself):  Let her read your concerned questions to us, and let her read all these points:

a. The school system has already punished you so there's no point in your mother constantly bringing it up past history.  You need to believe she's on your side now, NOT that she's  an enemy--and you can tell your mother I said so.

b.My own son got in some trouble in high school too.  The legal system punished him well enough--he didn't make the same mistake again.  My son didn't need ME, his mother,  bringing it up the incident all the time, which would just make him feel bad about it,  SO I NEVER DID,BRING IT UP, except matter-of-factly at those times when he NEEDED ME to HELP him out.  So my son and I went through this  part of my son's  life 'being on the same side.'  Believe me, it is so much nicer being on the same side with your son than  it is 'being enemies!

c. You commented that your mother 'brings up her own troubles.' to you. If so, this isn't right.  Parents shouldn't impose their personal troubles onto their children--they should save such talk for their own personal friends and adult family.  Perhaps point that out to her.

d.  If you feel that your mother still continues to 'bring it up' all the time, then try what I did with my sister when I felt conversations got uneven.  We agreed to use a timer.  One person could express her feelings for 5 minutes without being interrupted; then the other person could express her feelings for 5 minutes without being interrupted.  AND we TAPE RECORDED it, ONLY because that ensured that we both stuck to the topic.

Good luck to you.  I hope you gain your mother's support.  Please print your question and answers out for her to read, all of them.