Hey s*x question?

Question

i'm 15, ive been with my guy for 2 years though. I seriously want to have s*x with him but im worried about getting pregnant, i'm not worried one bit about loosing virginity i feel as if im really ready but i was wondering apart from condoms and the pill (Wont be able to go on the pill coz my mum wouldnt allow it) is there any contreception methods?

Answer 1

I have to be honest with you, seriously consider waiting to have s*x!  I too, but at 16, was with someone I thought I loved, was a girlfriend to for over a year etc.  I wanted to have s*x too.  I asked my parents, which was very hard to do, for birth control pills.  They refused and said I should not be having s*x.  Well, 1 year later I was pregnant.  Yes, it was my choice and it is YOURS also however please reconsider.  I am now 30 years old and my daughter is 11.  It is a HUGE responsibility to have a child and the toughest thing you could ever go through at such a young age!  I was stubborn and did not want to listen to anyone, I did what I wanted and well, the rest is history!  If you do decide to have s*x with your boyfriend first call planned parenthood.  I am not a supporter of them BUT being the realist that I am, you can go there, under the age of 18 and get examined by a doctor there.  They will give you BC pills without your parents knowing, they also provide condoms.  Please just take care of yourself.  Do what you know is right and don't wait for something to happen before you regret it later on.  To answer your question though directly.  Besides the pill and a condom, there is not anything else you could buy over the counter that will decrease your chances 99% to getting pregnant.  Pills DO NOT protect you against anything other than pregnancy.  Condoms will.  Be smart, think about it, research it and make the best decision!

Answer 2

Just buy condoms and MAKE SURE he doesn't get any of that inside of you, even if it's on his hands and he tries to go in you, don't let him!

And if your doing it more than once change the condom..

Answer 3

either you or him should wear a condom and get on the pill

Answer 4

Condoms are the most reliable and accessible, and are the smartest choice for teenagers. They dont really affect your hormones and stuff like the pill can.

But you actually can get pregnant at any time of the month, even when you're on your period, because sperm can live for up to seven days inside your body, so it's really important that you always use birth control.

Answer 5

there is a female condom that is like a plastic sheet type thing. but apart from that there isnt anything else. u can go see the doctor and have a talk with him about it all.

Answer 6

Firstly, ask your partner to put on spermicides. They are only effective for an hour so make sure that he applies it again after an hour or there might be a high risk of you getting pregnant.

Spermicides can be used with other contraceptives methods. Ask your man to wear a condom after applying spermicides.

Since you can't take pills, other preventions are contraceptive patch, diaphragms(female condom).

Other things TO NOTE: Although you may decrease the risk of getting pregnant by having these preventions, but don't forget, you may risk getting sexually transmitted diseases. Some examples are: Syphilis, Genital Herpes, HIV, Gonorrheoa...

There are lots of things to consider before engaging in such acts premarital. The decision is yours girl...

P/s: I am not saying these to scare you... but ''prevention is better than cure''... besides, these ARE facts.

All the Best~~~!

Answer 7

Condoms, contraceptive foam/sponges/inserts-the female condom- these are all different types of contraceptives which are available over the counter at most drug stores and pharmacies. Your best defense against pregnancy and STD'S, though, IS ABSTINENCE. Look, I know it's tough to say no, especially when you THINK you love someone, but you need to learn to think with your HEAD, NOT YOUR HORMONES or with what's between your legs. The simple truth is that you are TOO YOUNG to be having s*x right now- and you need to give some serious thought to the consequences, which are far greater than just the potential of your getting pregnant. How old is your boyfriend, pal? If he's older than you are, and especially if he's 17 or 18, do you realize that your parents can and most likely will have him arrested and charged with RAPING YOU, should the two of you have s*x? It won't make one damm bit of difference if the s*x was consensual or not ( meaning that you went along with it willingly) - in the eyes of the law, because you are only 15 yourself, it is STILL CONSIDERED TO BE STATUATORY RAPE. You are NOT OLD ENOUGH to give legal consent for s*x, sweetie, and if you decide to go ahead and do this on your own, then you are risking losing a LOT more than just your virginity. How eager are you to visit your boyfriend ( assuming he is still your friend after he gets arrested and charged with raping you, that is) in prison? THINK about that one for a moment.

Even if your boyfriend is your age, the two of you can still get into a LOT of legal trouble if you decide to go ahead- and yes, your parents can still have him charged with rape and taking indecent liberties with you. Here in Delaware, where I live, we have a clause built into our legal code which states that people can get arrested for "offensive touching", or what you would consider to be "making out", if they are underage. Have you done any research to find out what the laws of your state are concerning this, pal? It might be good to know this before you jump in the sack with your boyfriend, because somehow, I don't think you're real keen on having him go to jail because you made out with each other and his parents or yours found out about it. Does your state have a version of this law? A good many of them do- so it might be something to look into and think about.

Has it ever entered your head that your boyfriend is probably using you for s*x? Guys tend to do that with girls, to test them out to see just how much and what they can get by with. That's just how teen guys are- and they have been that way since the dawn of time. Part of it is hormones, and part of it is because guys that age tend to think they are invincible and that nothing bad can ever happen to them or anyone they know. They don't think about the price that girls often must pay, in terms of unwanted pregnancies, STD's ( some of which are FATAL and incurable, like AIDS) having their reputations damaged or destroyed, and the enormous interruptions to the girls' educations and lives that having premature s*x brings. You also need to realize that NONE of the contraceptives which I mentioned earlier is 100% effective all the time, except abstinence, and NONE of them are foolproof. Condoms can and often do break, especially if the guy is strong or rough- and a lot of guys are. Foams and inserts have time limits on their effectiveness, and they must be used correctly in order to provide maximum benefit. Yet another thing to remember is that certain other methods which have been mentioned here are USELESS in preventing either pregnancy or STD'S, such as the rhythm method, or "pulling out". THEY JUST PLAIN DON'T WORK. No one who espouses their use wants to admit to this, because it makes them look bad- but truth is truth, and there is no getting around the fact that if you use one of these methods, you are going to be a mommy in short order. I'm a medical coder by profession, and I work with and around doctors all the time, and I know what I am talking about here.

Have you ever had a pelvic exam done, sweetie, and talked about what you are considering with your doctor? Doctors are often very helpful in providing information which can aid you in making a decision like this one, and they are required by law to keep what you say to them private. It's something else to think about- and it might be a good idea from another point of view, in that you will have a chance to get your facts straight about s*x and contraception, before things get hot and heavy with your boyfriend. It's much easier to make the correct choice about something this serious when you are well informed about it. Plus, from your parents' point of view, it is an indication that you care enough about your own health and well being to be responsible about contraception. Visiting a doctor would be a great first step towards convincing your mom to let you go on the pill- because the doctor can explain all the risks and benefits to you in her presence. Hearing an objective viewpoint from a trained medical professional might very well turn the tide in your favor, so to speak, and convince your mom that your being on the pill is safer than the alternatives, which is actually true.

Think about all this- and good luck.

Answer 8

I think you should know how to spell "losing" and "contraception" before you sleep with someone.

Answer 9

the morning after pill may help.

it clears your system

and you can just buy it by yourself

and your parents wouldnt have to find out

good luck

x

Answer 10

Birth control (pills, shot, patch) are great and even better when you pair them with condoms. Other than that - condoms w/ spermacide are your best bet since you aren't getting the pill.

Answer 11

I'll just start off by saying that I think you're too young.  I don't think anybody is truly ready at 15, no matter how long if you've been with your partner. But, it is your business, and you're going to do what you want regardless.

If you decide anyway that you're going to do it anyway, another thing you can use is the "pull out method". Before he ejaculates, he will pull out. This would be a smart move even though he's wearing a condom.

Answer 12

lots of things

contraceptive injection

implant

diaphram

femidom etc etc

seriously where do you live ? i was taught this all at 11 when i was at school

i just dont understand why some one of 15 doesnt know this already.

ps ignore blayzn - the 'pulling out methode' is a sure way to get pregnant or catch a STI

what ever methode you use dont forget pregnancys can be aborted but AID's will kill you so ALWAYS make him wear a condom.

Answer 13

Save up some cash and walk to your nearest gas station market and buy some condoms

Answer 14

go down to the clinic and get free birth control and condoms, also ask for the day after pill (this will cost money).  dont let him go without a condom!!!

Answer 15

You don't need your mom's permission. Go to planned parenthood and get the pill. It is only $8. Use a condom too even though you are on the pill just to be extra safe. Don't just have s*x because you want to without being on the pill. Getting pregnant will completely destroy your life, you are way too young.

Answer 16

I know how you feel, but there really isn't much available to you at your age, your best bet if you decide to go ahead is condoms, the pill only protects against pregnancy, and there are so many nasty diseases out there, you need to protect yourself. If you have a nurse or teacher at school, ask them for advice, but really, try and talk with your Mum, I know they can be over the top at imes, but she loves you more than anyone, even your boyfriend, if you'vebeen together two years, she knows you really care for him and she should be proud of you that you have waited this long and are thinking it through so carefully. But unfortunately, there are not many options and pregnancy is only one thing to be worried about when starting to have s*x, loosing your virginity is the easiest part.

Answer 17

Not that are very reliable. Have your boyfriend buy some condoms, they're available everywhere, and you could get some free at the health clinic. Good idea to use protection, though I urge you to wait, you are so young.

Answer 18

Honestly if you have thought about this and really want to do it, talk it over with your parents, or mom. You may be surprised at her response. If you take it to her like and adult and tell her how you feel, she may be willing to help you. Make sure you point it out that you have had several opportunities to do this before and they you didnt have to tell her but you felt like it was the responsible thing to do. Tell her how you want to be a responsible young woman and you want her to be a part of that, then ask if she wants to. Your school nurse or local crisis pregnancy center will be able to help you with birth control. They can help you pick what you want to use, tell you about safe s*x practices, offer councel, and give you contraceptive.

Answer 19

I too think you are too young but if you're going to do it then I would rather help you not get pregnant.

Along with everything others above has said... you could also use what's called "the rhythm method."

There is about a one week period of time in a month that a woman can get pregnant.

2 weeks after the first day of your period is about the day that you are most fertile. About 3 days before AND after that day you can conceive.

This is the week that you should just NOT have s*x to completely avoid getting pregnant.  

To explain the dates better so you know when your week is... lets say you start your period today, July 21st. Then August 4th would be your most fertile day. Anywhere from August 1st through August 7th you would be very likely to conceive.

This doesn't mean that you should not be cautious any other day of the month because nothing is impossible. Still use the "pull out method," get birth control if you can, and use condoms. And you're going to need to tell you doctor that you've become sexually active. And don't worry, it's against the law for your doctor to tell you parents about what you talk to your doctor about.

Be safe girl!

Answer 20

i was 15 when i lost my virginity and i had the same troubles, Ive lived with my nan since a very young age due to loosing my mother. you should try confide in your mum (as i do my nan) surely she wudnt want you going behind her back and getting pregnant. i understand this is hard for some girls as its embarrassing, may get into trouble etc, but maybe she will understand? you dont need an adults permission to go on the pill and they never need know about it. if not there are other contreception methods such as the depo and rod. i wudnt suggest the coil as your at a very young age and this is usually given to the older woman. the safest way is to be on birth control and wear a condom even though apparently after the first 7 days you dont need to wear protection - there are still chances of pregnany so i wudnt recomend this. also remember condoms protect you from sti's among other things, has your boyfriend slept with anyone before you? good luck hope its helped

Answer 21

I don't know where you live but here in Australia freedom of privacy allows females to go to the doctor without any parent intervention and with complete patient/doctor confidentiality.

Try and figure out what the age is wherever you are because honestly you should go and at least talk to your doctor about this because obviously you haven't been given enough information regarding contreceptives plus they'll give you more sti/pregnancy info too.

A really good idea that worked for friends of mine with strict parents is they told their Mums they wanted to get on the pill for reasons like make their periods lighter/more regular and acne which the pill also helps with, and thus you can go and get the pill and you're mum generally should be fine.

Honestly though the pill and condom are pretty much the easiest and most effective contreceptives in my opinion.

Answer 22

condom is the easiest method.

just use it till your 16, then you can legally go to the doctor and get the pill yourself without parental permission.