Heya x is it wrong for a 13 year old to want a baby ?

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Heya x is it wrong for a 13 year old to want a baby ?

Answer 1

Its not wrong to feel this way as you are in the middle of hormones and feelings of complexity when it comes to relationships. My best advice is to wait a bit and see if you still feel this way in time here are some pointers if you feel like you can say yes to these then thats a start:

Do you have enough money to support your child? a comfortable house with a nice garden to play in, enough for clothes and food to keep it healthy and happy

Do you have a good job to set example to your child? can you afford the time off work to care for it?

Will the baby have two parents to nurture and look after it? or another significant other as parenting alone is hard

Would you be able to cope if your baby was handicapped?

Are you emotionally secure in yourself? can you support yourself emotionally aswell as another baby?

Have you fulfilled all your hopes and dreams? you will not have time for education, social life, holidays abroad, parties, growing up yourself.

are you prepared to dedicate the next 18 years to this person or will you get bored once the baby grows up.

Good luck i hope these questions help you decide! :)

Answer 2

there is nothing with desiring to have a child of your own (for good reasons, not becuase you want a live doll to dress up and comb hair) but its actually disappointing, sad, immature, and stupid to actually have it. a child having a child?

Answer 3

no....its common

Answer 4

No it isnt wrong to want a baby ... i think all girls at this age want a baby . i just wish oyu would wait .. im 14 and 3 monthes pregnant and it is hard ..  PLEASE Wait till you are older !!!

Answer 5

No, and if you that sure you want one, I'm willing to be their daddy for you xxxxxxxxxxx

Answer 6

YES!!!!!

While a 13yr.-old female is biologically capable of having a baby, physiologically her body is not ready for it because, her body has not finished maturing.  Give it another 10yrs..  Then you can start thinking about it again.

Answer 7

no, its  not...lol i already have the names of what im going to name my kids haha....but the problem is if your GONNA make a baby....yeaaaa thats...thats...very bad.

Answer 8

it's not wrong to want a baby but it would be bad to have one.

Answer 9

well im 12 and i want a baby too so i know what u mean... its not rong but you should have it with some one you know you wouldnt mind being the father of the baby

Answer 10

No, it's kind of every girl's dream to one day become a mom. Now, acting upon that wish and trying to get a baby right at that second... that's wrong. We have to learn to wait to give your babay the best life you can give it.

Answer 11

It is not wrong to want one at all. But you have got to wait till your older. I want to have a child when im married. So basicly i want one but not now.

Answer 12

As long as you don't want it in the near future, it's not wrong. If you do, don't. It's a lot of hard work. Wait for at least 10 years and trust me, wait until you finish college and get married. I had my first son at 20 and even that was still hard for me.

Answer 13

no it's completely normal. i sometimes want a baby. Just babysit or take care of siblings. Don't have a baby YET, Ur not ready.

Answer 14

it isn't wrong to WANT a baby at 13, it's just wrong to have one, which i think has been most peoples point. though some seem to think you are asking f it is wrong to HAVE a baby at 13.

Answer 15

well no it is normal to want a baby at such a young age they are called hormones but as for making a baby or getting one don't do that wait until u are older start a baby sitting job

Answer 16

no - but going around to GET a baby, that is a problem.

Answer 17

i think so.

if you want some so mad.

spike your moms and dads drink. light a candle. and wait 9 months.

WAHLAA problems solved.

Answer 18

No its an evolutionary reaction. Your surving, so now the goal is reproduction. This worked very well a thousand years ago. today we have made society more complacated and life longer so it dosen't work so well. Thier are probally a few 13 year olds who can take care of a baby despite popular belied. Unfortantly for most it is either very difficult or impossible. Another problem is social stigma. Most moms under 24 or so are looked down on. I had a stranger flick me off in a supermarket when I was holding my baby sister (I'm 14.) To answer your queston it is highly resonable to want a baby whether or not to acually have one would be more of a problem

Answer 19

No, I want a baby some day. Just trying to get pregnant fot the baby at 13 is bad.

Answer 20

It is not wrong, but please don't consider it.  A teenager shouldn't have a baby because they could not afford to take care of it.  Wait until you are an adult and have a good job, but babies are cute and I am sure you will make a good Mother one day.

Answer 21

No its not wrong..... but I actually get out there and go make one is!

I used to have those feelings to, but I think its just coz of the whole hormones and period thing.... our biological clock's saying "GO MAKE A BABY!"

but its just not the right thing to do! you wouldn't be able to take care of it like financially.... and you definitely can't rely on your parents. You don't see your parents relying on your grandparents to take care of you....

I'd probably regret it if I had a baby at 13... I now can't even stand babysitting my lil cousins! XD'

My advise.... wait, ermmm.... for the right person.... you'll know when.

Answer 22

When older, no

Thirteen, big YES YES.

You heard how it's bad.

You don't want or need a baby right now.

What about school?

Or money?

You'll be giving up your friends at 13.

Wait til your older.

Answer 23

its pretty common

but going around and trying to have a baby is a definite no

Answer 24

yea itz rong she dosent hav the responsibility 2 take care of 1.they mite want a baby cause of their cuteness or just 2 show off.

Answer 25

YES IT'S WRONG. At 13 yo you have not learned enough about life to have a baby and take care of it on your own. I was a teen mother giving birth at 14. I knew I was in trouble, plus my parents didn't even know i was having s*x. I hid it for 7 months, then my mom cought me coming out of the shower. Long story short I got kicked out, because I thought I knew everything. I ended up giving birth, living in a shelter, and doing what I had to do to provide for the baby and attend school. By the time my kid was 2 I couldn't handle it. I had no life, living in the worst neighborhood, I never had any money from paying the little bills I did have (given I was living with a friend's family), and I never got good sleep from having to work, go to school, and spend time with him. I made the hardest most difficult decision I've ever had to make, but, the best one for me. I had to give him up for adoption. He deserved better than me, and I owed it to myself to do improve my situation. I called my parents let them know my decision and at 16 yo I gave him up. I am now 24 yo U.S.N veteran going to school to be a lawyer and starting my own business. I still love him, but, I KNEW I couldn't bear all that responsibility, and MY child deserved better than an uneducated , stressed out, unprepared mother, and absent father. So I made sure he got a family who had what he needed.

Do you have any IDEA how much a baby costs over the course of 18 years, 22 if they go to college? Try close to between $5,000-$10,000 a year. From daycare, healthcare, food, clothing, education, safety, recreation, place of residence, and other important things a baby can drain everything you have, even as an adult. Yes, there are teens getting pregnant and having babies everyday, but, that doesn't mak it right. These young ladies may or may not have it as hard or harder than I did, but, they will run into battles along the way.

Plus with the economy failing the way it is, even well budgeted middle class families are running into some problems. Sweetie, babies are cute, they smell good, and make you feel good holding a new life, but, they are a huge responsibility and I'm sure you want to enjoy your youth.

Plus your parents would have to support you and the baby until you could support yourself, would you really feel good about placing that burden on the people that love you the most?

Answer 26

I think you need to go further into detail.

Do you mean, is it wrong for her to have a baby at this point in her life, or to just want to have kids eventually?

Answer 27

i think  its not really right wait till  older  if they want one now it is just wishing there life away they wont be able to do any normal stuf as they would be looking after the baby

Answer 28

no but dont have one, wait!

Answer 29

It's not wrong........... but you have to be responsible think of the baby, do you have enough money,food,loving people around. :)

Answer 30

ya definitely it is wrong to have a baby at 13 bcoz she dont have that much  maturity to take care of the baby.

This type of thoughts come into mind bcoz of lack of maturity

Answer 31

Heya!! Erm its not wrong for you to want a baby.

They r so cute and I no when I was your age I believed I would make the best mother in the world!

Now im 19 and babies r still super cute...but loads of hard work. At the age of thirteen its just too soon. The rest of your life will be a struggle.

My friend had a baby when she was 19 with her boyfriend, she said that she found it so hard and she definately couldnt have coped if she was younger and single.

Loads of girls get broody over children.. its completely normal but you really should be realistic about this!! You have years upon years to have a baby... whats the rush... enjoy your childhood!! You only get one!! Good luck!! xx