He’s coming to see me today and I’m freaking out. ?

Question

A year ago I met this guy who I fell for hook line and sinker! He didn’t want a relationship at the time and I found out he was playing me. A month ago I found out he had a girlfriend and I was upset and tried to forget about him but he contacted me one day and all the feelings came back instantly then he went quiet again and I was ok. – I went out with 4 fireman (that’s what his job was) hoping that I would find another one like him, - why I don’t know I can’t pinpoint exactly what I like about him so much!

Anyway I needed to sell a ticket and text everyone asking them – he replied and is buying it off me today – he is coming to my pub (he lives a fair way off and never came to my home town when we were seeing one another) and I am FREAKING OUT!!!!!! I am worried that he is going to make me feel like rubbish again and I am going to yearn for him. I’m scared about looking at him... I really am freaking out!!! Because of him every guy that I have dated when they have turned out bad or they have ended it I’ve managed to brush it aside and get on... But this guy I just cant... What do I do later?

Answer 1

When he comes, sell him the ticket and talk nicely. Think of the good things you have going on in your life before hand so that you can be in a positive mood and let him know that your life is good without him.

Try to keep the conversation short. Plan something with another person maybe 30 minutes or an hour after he is supposed to be there. Or tell him that you have to focus on how things are going at work and can't give him 100% of your attention.

If he asks you out, decline. Just tell him "no thanks. We already tried it, remember? I don't want to go through that again." If he goes as far as to beg - just come out and ask him to leave.

If he really makes you feel like rubbish, you may want to consider removing his contact info from your list. I like to hold on to old people too in case I ever need to contact them - but chances are you really won't miss him much after his info is gone. If you are worried about it, save it in the Notes section of your Yahoo! mail. That way he can be retrieved if you ever need him.

Don't worry. It will just be a few minutes of your time. You will be ok.  

Answer 2

If he played you before, he will do it again.