Hi I am married to a OIF VET?

Question

okay he is just sleeps all the time I try gettin him to do things with me and the kids and he just gets mad and stays like that the rest of the day, and I just tell never mind. And the kids wanna hug him or play with him like with there video game or board games but he just starts yelling and telling them to go away. That makes me so mad, and then we start arguing because of it. He just rather sit there watchen tv or playing his dumb video games, or go and hang out with his friends and drink, plus I tell him he is gonna get in trouble and he dont care, plus he is on so many medication and I am afraid he might over dose?? I dont wanna loose him at all I love him and I dont want to kids to grow up with out him. I let him know how I feel and he just looks at me, and he just walks out? Oh yeah the other day I found vodka hidden behind the bed and I confronted him about it and he just laughs about it and gets mad and he says it iisn'this. PLEASE HELP ME !! WHATS SHOULD I DO

PEOPLE THAT DONT HAVE SOMETHING GOOD TO SAY THEN DONT ANSWER MY QUESTION.

Answer 1

Depending on how much he saw over there and how long he's been home the readjustment period will vary. Things will always be different, it's just the way things are for us when we get back, we want to so bad but can never go back to square one.

   We feel we can only talk to someone who's been where we've been and feel that speaking to a shrink who has no combat experience is a waste of time. You can try MILspouse.org, they have alot of great links to other sites that can be very helpful on the road to recovery. I ersonally can say that military onesource has been the singlemost useful tool we military families have at our disposal and it's all too often underused. Hopefully I gave you a tip in the right direction, I try to follow up when someone needs a more in depth answer, but this a very lengthy issue and I will be as helpful as I can given the limitations I have to work with here.

Answer 2

Get counseling if you want to save your marriage and your husband.  He is in depression.

Answer 3

How long as he been back from the sandbox??

Answer 4

He is definitely depressed.  It is actually a good sign that you still love him, that means YOU CAN save your marriage. Just don't give up. Talk to him when he is in the mood. Convince him to go to his doctor  Maybe he is in need of anti-depressant medication. Try counseling as well. It may take a while to get back to a normal life, but it worth it.