Hi i am a high school sophomore (male) in need of advice and help

Question

I am 15 years old and have a few problems, 1 finding a job seems nearly I'mpossible im nice curtious etc but I'm guessing its just easier for 16 year old's? 2 i really "mest" up my freshman year by procrastinatingg i had the ability to get straight a's but i learned the hard way there not given to you, so i'm gonna work my butt off these next 3 years and take summer classes to get a better gpa which leads to will colleges still except me if i come out with a 3.5 or above and have some clubs community service? and lastly this is one which is embarrasing and any pr** that makes fun of me should be ashamed im just an average teenager, i can only get a hard on when i m********e before i could just think about that really hot chick in class and i was hard as a rock, but now i dont even get morning errections and unless i watch p**n, this makes me nervous to do anything sexual with friends that are girls in fear of not getting hard (bjs or losing virginity etc) and use my hand for a bit thats pretty much it, ill fix and add more to this and im hoping someone can give me some usefull info and answers, this was very poorly but thanks for reading again

p.s i smoke weed occasionlly to get out of reality and because its fun, dont judge me.

Answer 1

You sound like most teen agers and I don't really see that you have any real problems. You are definitely on the right track with trying to getting things right for college. As for the sexual thing, you probably don't have a real problem there either. It is probably just temporary or after a while using the same old fantasy for an erection will get old and you have to invent some new ideas. I am sure everybody does that.The weed thing, try not to make it a big habit because it may be affecting the school and the s*x thing. Think about it. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Like everyone else before me. Stop doing weed. Even though you may not think it, long use of marijuana can be addicting. Its not good for your body and doing it because its fun is stupid. NOT JUDGING HERE. But you NEED to focus on reality, not live in a fantasy world where everything is s*x, beer, and parties. Because that world will swiftly come to an end.  Two, p**n messes with guys heads and makes them think s*x is just like it is in those videos.....which it's not. Its messes up their future relationships with girls....you'll get bored with them, you'll move on to someone else. You'll end up having three or four failed marriages. Its not good. Thirdly, Find a job thats right in your area of expertise. If your good at hard labor then mow lawns, or find a job with a company that moves big boxes. If you'd prefer working in an air conditioned office, work as an intern. of course not all of those jobs pay. Just keep looking around your sure to find something.  

Answer 3

Um, well, yes, a college will still except you with a good GPA and a well-rounded list of extra-curricular activities.

Also, you shouldn't even be worrying about that last part - s*x should be a really minor thing on your mind. Try wondering about this if it persists again, but at the legal age of consent, please, or at least until you're an adult (whichever comes first in your state).

And p.s., I'm not judging you, buuut... maybe you're stressed, but sometimes you've gotta face reality instead of escaping it. :-P And I don't think drugs are fun in the long run, or any run at all.

Answer 4

it sounds like your on the right track as far as how you want to get you grades together, it sounds like you know how important education is so one thing i would recommend is to find a older male mentor a school counselor or a relative to talk to about your goals and the sexually problem which sounds to be just stress, you really need to find someone to talk to, i wish you the best.

Answer 5

1)  Stopping smoking weed will go a long way towards improving your grades and your s*x life.  If you're having this problem at 15, man, weed is really really bad for you as an individual.  If the problem persists after stopping all weed for a month, go to the doctor.  I'm serious.

2)  Yes, colleges often assume that kids mess up in 9th grade, so they look at improvement in grades through the next three years as an indication that the applicant is maturing and becoming more responsible.

Good luck!