Hi is she my friend or she is like what ever?

Question

I wanted to say thank you all of you for your words. Ok I meet this co-worker & we know each other 4 months now. Me & her we both hangout together 6 times & it went good. Then later ,I started to like her. I think that she nows that I like her because I believe girls they know when a guy likes a girl. Ok back to the story. One day, she told me that a guy from her table he left his number to her with no name & she called him anyways. They both went on a date. After they know each other for "1 week" she posted pictures of him on her Myspace profile? Why she never posted pictures of us & all those 3 months that we hangout? She even did not introduce me with him when she brought him to work to eat & I feel that I was not important to her. I feel hurt & anger because, it not suppost to happen this way & what happen all of those words that she said me that I'm a nice special guy & she even shares her personal history family & childhood problems.

What it bugs me, is that I believe she knows that I like her & if she does, why she never contact me about my feelings or does she care? Does she doen't call me instead of bloody text? Thank you & I'm trying to keep myself busy with my life.

Answer 1

it sounds like she didn't know you like her.

you assume she knew, but did you ever tell her?

she may not have known, and was waiting for you to tell her. as you didn't tell her, she might have thought you weren't interested.

tell her now and apologise for not telling her before

Answer 2

TOO LONG FOR E TO READ

Answer 3

it's a gamble dating coworkers anyway. if it doesn't work out, tension from the relationship will get in the way of you having a good day at work. I'd just step back and continue the friendship you have, later on when this guy isn't coming around anymore then maybe plan a good date, what was her interests in high school, take her to a popular play, a fancy restaurant, but wait it out, you just might discover she wasn't the catch you thought she was.

Answer 4

maybe she didn't realise at all that you liked her. we're not telepathic you know :) it might seem to you like she should know, but maybe she only ever looked at you as a friend and therefore didn't realise that you started liking her as more than a friend.

if you never voiced this to her, and you never actually had a romantic relationship with her then it's not her fault for not understanding your motives.

you should confront her about it if it's really upsetting you that much.

Answer 5

she is not ur friend. my new way in life is that ppl come and go in ur life all year round, u just need to realize to ur self who is worth keepin and who is worth not needing. one thing learned is to stop being nice to everyone, if u have to walk on egg shells for certain "friends" and not be ur self then u don't these ppl. ur a great person just bein ur self.

Answer 6

You didnt make a move. Youve landed in the friend zone.

If you never made your feelings clear you cant blame her or be mad at her.

So what you gonna do now bro? Move on? Try and make a move when it might be too late? Next time dont wait 3 months to kiss a girl.

Answer 7

Well maybe she doesnt't know you like her. And you should have asked her out if you did. And she posted pics on myspace bcause shes going out with him?  

Answer 8

I'm sorry dude but it's too late. She sees you as a friend no more no less. Look for another one and or stay away form her, keep it pro... luck in seeking

Answer 9

Tito,

I guess i have a little different idea than the others.  For women emotional connection is very important, especially if she is looking for a life partner. If she is only looking for a fling she wouldn't want to lose your friendship  over that.  

I think when you are having one of those deep  discussions where she tells you things that matter to her,  you should tell her what's on your heart too. If you have a close friendship it should be able to stand the confession. If it can't then it wasn't truly a close friendship.

Do give her a bit of time to think about it. You know how you feel, but she may not know at all so it would be a surprise to her.  Don't be angry if she can't answer right away, or if she answers in haste and it's not what you want to hear. let her think. She may realize that you are the one she really wants to spend time with.  Try to be the same dependable friend  you've been while she decides.  Just a bit of a secret. Women really want  their husbands to be their best friends. When that doesn't happen  we are disappointed.  You are already ahead of the other guy in that respect.  

best wishes to you.

Answer 10

she may like you and care about you very much, but not in a romantic kinda way....you may be getting your signals crossed...if this guy is important to her, let her have her time with him...more than likely things will eventually end and being there as her friend can mean more in the long run...thats how my husband and i ended up together, years of friendship, always there after the other one broke up with someone, and here we are several years later married...sometimes you just have to wait it out...

focus on other things, the more you want her, the more and more its going to seem like you cant have her, but MOST!! importantly, DO NOT become the jealous friend, ex, whatever...that is a sure ticket to the end of whatever relationship you may have currently and ruin any chances for a future one..

good luck!

Answer 11

He is not your freind

Answer 12

mey be she thinking ur best friend 4 her dats y.

Answer 13

Well..Im A Girl..i Dont Know When A Guy Likes Me. And.. Maybe She Really Has Feelings For This Guy. You Could Try Telling Her Im A Girl I Think She Will Understand. This Could Be A Special Thing For Her With This Other Guy. This Is Why People Say Love Ruins Friendship. And Who Knows..If She Goes Out And Then Breaks Up With This Guy You Might Have A Chance..! Good Luck ;-)

Answer 14

hey. it seems liek you guys were going good those first months but when she found out you liked her she might have gottena little scared about the idea. i think one f the best things to do would be to find her when shes alone and ask her about the whole situation, and maybe ask her if she knows that you like her because theres a chance that she liked you back but she wasnt sure if she wanted to get involved. just try to find her at a good time and talk to her about this all. im sure if shes worth being friends with, shell listen to you and know what your feeling :] maybe all she wants is for you to admit to her that you do liek her