High school trouble please someone help me...

Question

okay well i just started school this week and im so happy its the weekend because... im having a really hard time. i just started high school and im 14. well my reputation from last year followed me.. im getting called a "s**t" and the "easy w***e". i cant take this anymore its all becuz i feel in love and the guy said he would stay with me forever so i lost my virginity to him and he told everyone tht im easy. i cant go back to school i always get dirty looks even my friends wont talk to me anymore they say im a bad influence on them.... please help idk wat to do..

Answer 1

well i do agree with them in the point that you did make a mistake.obviously since this guy used you just for s*x. but learn from your mistakes and keep your head up.dont repeat them and just like yourself dont listen to all the idiots out there that dont even bother to know you. you'll find the right friends-dont worry.  

Answer 2

You are a 's**t' and an 'easy w***e'.

Get over it.

Answer 3

all you have to do is stay strong and stay focused. its going to be hard but keep your head up and learn from your mistakes.

Answer 4

The first thing you should do is work on your self esteem.

I know high school peer opinion appears important, but if you have belief in yourself first then those around you will begin to respect you as well. Do not let others tell you who or what you are. Know that first and then show them.

It sounds like maybe you haven't forgiven yourself for losing your virginity and you need to do that. You made a mistake. Simple. Fortunately there was no long term consequence like a pregnancy or disease.

Once you forgive yourself, everyone else will forget or it just won't matter to you.

Good luck.

Answer 5

That is a mistake that some people make. Just wait. The time will come when someone asks you about it, and you can tell them what really happened. But, as long as you have just one or two or maybe even a few friends, that are good toyou and stick by your side then you should be okay. But, let me know how you do.

Answer 6

omg!!! i totally understand where you are coming from. when i broke up with my bf, he told like all his friends that i was a s.lut and then the whole school seemed to know, and even parents started to find out what was going on and they didnt want their kids to hang out with me even though we were friends. i talked to my parents about it, and eventually they understood how upset i was and i moved schools. now i love school cause everyone treats me with respect instead of talking about me behind my back.. i am sorry to hear your story and i hope things get better becasue i have been in your shoes

Answer 7

I am sorry you got hurt hon,but YOU volunteered to RISK the consequences of losing your virginity to a guy who wasnot your husband.

It will take YRS to gain back a decent reputation,although it only took one night to lose that good reputation.

Just be nice to others and from now on if a guy wants to date,then the answer is "no s*x until I am married" and you stick with it regardless of whether you love one another or not.You made abig mistake and are going to pay for it for a while,just do not make the mistake of repeating that mistake hon.

I know your not a wh-re or a sl-t because if you were, you wouldn't be on here upset over the way you arebeing treated.Like I said, you will have to rebuild your reputation and it WILL take time.By the time you are a senior others will know you are not as "easy" as they had heard.

Answer 8

Take the higher ground. Try to ignore them but if they won't leave you alone talk to an adult about it. I suggest that you try talking to other people who won't judge you--if your "friends" just left you the minute you made a mistake, (we all make them) they obviously weren't very good friends. Forget about this guy, he's a total loser and at least you'll know who to trust the next time. Remember: if we never made mistakes we'd never learn from them. Good luck =]

Answer 9

Do you disagree with your friends that you're a bad influence on them? because, no offense, if my friend voluntarily lost her virginity at 13, i would seriously consider whether or not she is a good friend for me to have. I think you should apologize to your friends for making a stupid decision and then if everyone still shuns you, you should ask your parents if you can transfer. God bless you