His BOSS IS FOCUSING US TO SECRETLY DATE AND standing in the way of us getting married soon?

Question

I'm 26 Indian (from Indian-Asia) & his 35 white (american). He is a CFO of a big company.We ve been secretly dating because one of the executives is against interracial dating but he is retiring soon.

My fiancee has an opportunity of being 1 of the top 3 executives. He is being trained for the top job. My man says that he will miss this opportunity if his boss finds out about us.

There's a guy in his company who my fiancee believes deserved a promotion but the position was given a guy with lesser experience because he's married to a Japanese woman.

I understand him wanting to get ahead but this has been going on for a year.I DON'T think his cheating, I ve keys to his house,i spend every night with him, I ve unlimited access to his funds (accounts, so I pretty much know where he is and what he is doing with his money, not that I spy on him but I would know if he was cheating) and keys to all his cars. He proposed this last thanksgiving. I ve met his family.

The problem is that : I DON'T go to company parties with him. One of my white friends(wendy) poses as his girlfriend for company parties and goes with him on business trips to europe, when it's time to bring your panters trips.

He says we will go public when the boss retires.

I NOW THINK MY friend, Wendy, (who is pretty) who poses as his girl wants my man. She goes on and on about him in front of me. She talks about him with excitement, her eyes brighten up whenever he walks into the house.

I can't really tell what is going on because whenever I'm with him and Wendy is around he does not seem to pay any attention to her. Wendy knows and is helping me plan my wedding.

We have a great s*x life. He has never rejected my attention or sexual needs that why i think he is not cheating.

what should i do? and what do you think is going on?

Do you thin there is something going between he and wendy? What signs should i look out for?

Answer 1

Let's see. He's working for this racist outfit but is going to marry you? Basically, then, he's determined to spend most of his time in the culture of that corporation where he doesn't want to be seen with you. And, somehow, this is all going to change when he hits the big desk. My crystal ball says the marriage will never happen. He's made his bed, and you're not in it.  

Answer 2

this world is really messed up that people are secretly dating because of their race. But again I can believe your story because it sounds like his boss is old. Most old people of all races do not believe in race mixing.

I can't tell you if he is cheating with wendy but why why does your friend have to go with him..There is a good chance they are sleeping togther when they are in europe. I mean if they are pretending to be a couple then I assume the company is one paying for one hotel room for them. Are you o.k with your man sharing a hotel room with an other woman. Never never allow another woman to stand in for you. If he must take some one tell him to take his mother or sister. They would enjoy the trips.  

Answer 3

That man has no intentions on marrying you. He will marry the white girl that he takes on his trips. He will be seen as the American Corporate Poster Boy. He's not taking you to company functions? This is the man that loves you? A man will sacrifice EVERYthing for a woman if that is who he loves. Sounds like his ambition is larger than his concern for you. You may want to find an exit strategy...

Answer 4

how come the guy your man wanted promoted got his promotion because he's married to a Japanese woman, but it's not okay for your man to be with an Indian woman?  That's a double standard.  And setting him up with the white lady to pose as you was a horrible mistake - you basically gave your man permission to be with another woman!

Maybe you should step back and evaluate what you want for yourself in life and work on getting it.  I'm sure this is not it.

Answer 5

GET THAT RAISE GIRL!!!!!

Answer 6

For one, why is Wendy posing as his girlfriend?  I know you said because the boss is against interracial marriage.  But why does he need to have ANYONE as a girlfriend?

If the man who didn't get promoted because of his Japanese wife can prove that is why he didn't get the promotion, then he has grounds for a discrimination lawsuit.  I know that's easier said than done.  Maybe there were other reasons he didn't get this promotion.  Maybe your boyfriend is being overly cautious/sensitive for whatever reason?  Does he have deep down issues with interracial marriage?

I know this; I sure as heck WOULD NOT allow my employer to control my personal life.  That is just wrong!