His ex is larger than me?

Question

I'm going on my first date in ages with my sisters fiance's brother and his ex his 26 stone, shes rather large, but i'm not skinny myself i am 18 stone but i look in proportion and he did say i wasn't as large as he thought.

I have low confidance and i'm worried i might be to fat and ugly for him.

Would you say i'm a better improvement size wise or what do you think to make me have more confidance?

Anyway thank you for your time and your answers : )

no jokes please :(

Answer 1

I'm going to give you the advice I got.

I'm a larger guy... Not huge but larger. I used to be completely  nervous about my weight and how I look. Then I met my fiance. I asked her "how can you be attracted to me? Look at me" she said. "I just am". Were like the sitcom couple. Hot fit girl. Big out of shapeish guy. All I got to say is be you! Being me worked for me. I'm still shy about my weight around others but just not my fiance and close friends/family.

Even us bigger people get the loving we need!

Answer 2

i dont know what stone means. i say love yourself for who you are.you are beautiful by your heart not your body. this is just a date.not a marriage ceremonny. go out have a good time. iff it dosent work out so what. you be yourself and never be ashamed of your size. if you want to diet you will but never let acceptance be the reason. and never feel ashamed of yourself. you are fine.anyway do you really want to be involved with a guy who is shallow. if he dosent like you too bad.for him. he dosent deserve you

Answer 3

dont worry about what he thinks... think about the way he reacts to you, in turn making you feel a certain way. pay attention to how he makes you feel and worry about what you think of him

Answer 4

Who has a larger heart?  Who has the greatest compassion?   These are the important questions.

Answer 5

Try not to compare yourself with other people too often. You can't call yourself fat and ugly. (That should be against the law) Just try to "act" like you have confidence. I know you've got some in there some where! Everybody does. It's just that everybody is too afraid to hear that they're wrong even when they're right. If he has a problem with the way you look find a new dude. Sometimes looks can be so over rated.

Answer 6

I think it is great that his ex was a large women, this means he likes woman for who they are and not what size they are. If he is a nice guy and your into each other I would say hang on to him :)  

Answer 7

Don't worry about it. My ex is Club 18-30 (size) and my date last week was worried cos she was 16-18. It's not a problem. Think of yourself as ample not oversized.