Hiya, really need some love advice, help?

Question

I have just started dating this guy who is 2 years older than me but i have been told by a mate that he was really close to this other girl a few months back and they left each other loads lovely messages and are still friends, quite close. Also just before we dated i found out he was really into another girl who he apparently was close to on a holiday last week (i weren't there.) I am really bad at trusting people due to my past and can feel myself losing my trust in him ... shall i just ignore it all or ask him about it? I really like him though

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Answer 1

look its best now u no the truth than waste 2 0r three years on him,,,n if he is a cheater,,then go find you a guy who will love n respect only you,,cause he is out there,,if u give yourself a chance to find him,,,n i think you no in your heart his cheating,n prob the other girls dont no either,,so lets hope they dont end up with some terrible deases  ,,,,peace

Answer 2

most ppl deep down know, if they can trust a person or not, either thru instinct or by reading subconsciously others body language...

but if your asking, i think you know which side u r closer too.. trust is often not given, but usually built in time. a personal opinion maybe, but trust is a security that a partner should give... not for u to find.

u may wana ask what type of guy he is, why u feel for him in the first place, sometime the root has the answer u seek.

Answer 3

Sounds like there is competition. One part is girls interested in him, but is he allowing that attention to weaken your relationship. I would wait and see, if more evidence rises then ask at that time.

T.C.  

Answer 4

Ask him about it, of course. Your friends may be trying to help - but, there's a good chance that they could be misunderstanding the situation. Until you ask him, you won't really know the truth.

On another note - I wouldn't be afraid to confront this "good friend" of his either, and simply ask her what's going on. It really isn't your place, at this point, to tell him who he can and can't be friends with - but, if it bothers you, that doesn't mean you have to be completely silent about it.

Make sure you're diplomatic about it, and understand that his friends (even if they are female) are his friends, and that if you push the subject he may get offended. Try to be understanding, but don't be too shy to get your point across.

Good luck.

Answer 5

knowing all this fact, i think you should ignore this guy. Most of these kind of guys knows that you kind of girl does like him and that is why he gets stronger and does what he is doing, playing with three different girls at the same time.  Respect yourself and ignore him. Take your time and at the right time you will find the right person for you.

Have trust, I am also a guy but want to be with one girl but the honest one.    

Answer 6

Ask him about it. And if he lies to you, well, then he's not worth it!

Hope that helped!

:)