Hmm, what can be wrong with me?

Question

I can say the meanest things to anyone, no matter who it is, without feeling bad.

I don't know if this has anything to do with it, but I've been diagnosed as bi-polar.

I really don't get why I can do that, I usually don't mean anything I say, I just don't feel bad.

Answer 1

Profile of the Sociopath...

Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt

A deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at their core. Does not see others around them as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way.  

Answer 2

everyone has some kind of mental disorrder but its really no excuse for being an a hole

but maybe you have an class F9 conduct disorder  

Answer 3

My future mother-in-law is the same way and while she hasn't officially been diagnosed, we all think she is bi-polar.  I've read a bunch of books on the subject so I could figure out how to deal with the mean, hurtful things she says and try to understand why she says them.  Bottom line is that it isn't just about being bi-polar.  It is about having sensitivity emotionally.  If you don't know how to emotionally relate to people, it won't register when you say horrid things.  You may say things that are mean and not even realize it is mean.  It is like puppies, if they are weaned from their mother and removed from the other puppies too soon, they are never properly socialized and end up biting people and being vicious dogs.  The process of a puppy learning that bites hurt comes from their fellow puppies wincing and whining when they get bit.  This teaches them not to bite so hard.  People are the same way.  Socialization teaches people how words hurt and when it is appropriate to use them to do so.You probably were not appropriately socialized.  Just my theory though.

Answer 4

You look young in your avatar, maybe it's just your immaturity shining through.

Answer 5

A lot of people can say mean things to others and not feel bad nor guilty of they're inconsideration. I don't think your an a*****e, but I think if you started thinking about how you would feel if people said these things to you if it would hurt you. Think about what you say before you speak, life's short and you don't want to die with regrets or feeling guilty. Good luck!  

Answer 6

nothing is wrong with you, just try to be more self conscious and try to think before you utter anything to avoid these mishaps.

Answer 7

sounds more like a personality disorder

Answer 8

you are remorseless and have no compassion or feelings. I bet you have alot of anger in you, probably something bad happened to you. you need councilling and anger management, and possibly go on ssri's. You need to see a psychologist.  

Answer 9

my best answer vote goes to john  

Answer 10

WHY DONT YOU TELL PEOPLE AS SOON AS YOU MEET THEM LIKE "LOOK IM BIPOLAR AND I SAY SOME PRETTY MEAN $HIT BUT I DONT MEAN IT AND IF YOU DONT THINK YOU CAN HANDLE IT THEN I DONT THINK WE SHOULD HANG OUT"  i and all my friends are total b itches to each other and we dont really care   its just who we are, we've even physically hurt one another and then just get over it the next day...you just gotta understand that some people are just pu$$ys and not all hardcore like us b itches

Answer 11

if you dont feel bad about it why are you makeing the effort to ask about it ? either on some level you do actually care.. or your very very very bored and just in here flapping your gums for the heck of it... id like to believe the former, but of course only you can know the answer.

bipolar no matter what some of the sugar coated fluffy therapist types try to claim is neither the cause nor an excuse for being mean to folk.

anger, (which every one suffers from  occasionaly bi polar or not )

is the ussal cause.. but insecurity, fear of rejection and anxiety can also cause a person to be intentionaly mean. along with a get them before they get me mentality. do any of these reasons feel as though they might be causeing your behaviour?

there are also a few conditions where a person has no empathy, guilt and so forth, a good question to ask yourself is .. those certain people that your never mean too.. why is it that your not mean to them?.. is it because for those few you honestly dont want to hurt their feelings? or are you simply not mean to them because then you yourself will loose out in some way. if the latter is the case you might want to talk to your dr about other possible dissorders.

Answer 12

I doubt very much that you are the new cancer, being diagnosed with bi-polar doesn't have anything to do with saying mean things without feeling bad. I have alot of friends with bi-polar and yes,at times when they believe they can do well without their medication,then they can do some strange things, mean? no. you wrote "I usually don't mean anything I say" is saying "I  DO care" it's just that you're so focused  on your mental illness, that it has taken over your focus of happiness and turned it into a war within yourself, and the only way you know how to verbalize it is to take it out on others. Your illness has manifested your thoughts and actions. You can change that, start by thinking happier thoughts and start being happy. No matter what you did in the past can be changed into a more controlled and peaceful state of mind. You're not going to change overnight,it's going to take alot of tongue biting and practice. Join a group or volunteer somewhere where you have to practice dicipline and patience, for example, animal shelters with helpless abused animals, soup kitchens,etc.etc. I personally find going outside of my realhm and into other unfortunate organizations helps me to forget and forgive myself. There are no bad peoples, just bad situations and circumstances. I believe in you! good luck and like the song sings "Don't worry, be happy.!"  p.s.also think of that song Whitney Houston sang, or if you've never heard it, by all means, do so via youtube, titled "The Greatest Love".  

Answer 13

Maybe you've said mean things so much that it just doesn't occur to you that you could be hurting someones feelings. Maybe you should try to be nicer to people. Although I don't know what I'm saying, I'm like that too. And that is my problem. Ive been so mean to everyone that I just don't care anymore, oh and John, dude whatever, if you haven't noticed, you  just called someone a name, so I would be looking in your conscience

Answer 14

You're an a$$hole

Answer 15

well, i have met people in my lifetime who are like that and i have met people with the bi-polar disorder, and my  friend has it, she does the same thing sometimes, she can get really mean sometimes, but just make sure you talk it over with your doc. and just try to keep things to yourself as much as possible because  never forget that just because it doesn't bother you to say mean things it doesn't mean other don't get their feelings hurt. so just try to think before you  speak. and sorry to hear about your disorder. hope ive helped. take care.

Answer 16

dude I do the same thing.

you shouldnt even give a c**p about other people its only natural. peace

by the way, if other people talk **** about you, does it p**s you off? that could have a big effect on it.

Answer 17

maybe the problem is that you get treated the same way you treat people.like maybe people hurt your feelings and you just have no respect for people anymore because you have been hurt so bad.