Hmm.. i'm a little confused... how do you know?

Question

how do you know when you've met the person you're destined to be with.

Answer 1

Destined is a pretty loaded word.  Let's say the person you're supposed to marry.  Considering that about half of all marriages end in divorce, it's diffecult to know if it's truely destiny, until some serious time has passed. (The divorce-rate is actually down and has been decreasing since 1981 according to census reports, except for a brief spike in the Latino divorce rate in the early-1990s).

You know you're meant to be with someone, when you are mutually "in love" with one another.  You should also be able to survive the good and the bad in a relationship.  The good is the easy part, but the bad is what truely tests even the strongest relationships.  You should be bestfriends with one another. The absolute best romantic relationships have a strong friendship at their core.  Many romantic relationships even stem from platonic relationships. You should mutually trust and respect one another.  You should see a future with that person.  That future should seem good an attainable.

It's alright to be a little confused, but there should be some level of clarity in the decision to spend the rest of your life with someone.  On some level, it should make sense.  We all hear about cold feet before a marriage, but those who are truely committed to one another still believe passionately, that this is the person they are meant to be with.

You should have something invested in the relationship.  This investment may be emotional, spiritual, finacial, time, energy, commitment, trust, kids, property, but it should be a real investment.  What I'm saying is, when you're speaking in terms of destiny, you have to think big, and that means having a real investment in the relationship.  What is this relationship worth?  It should be quite valuable if you're going to spend the rest of your life in it.  Some people can easily see the value of their relationship, and some people can't.  Some people have no problem walking away from a relationship, because they have more to gain, then they do to loose.  Hopefully, you'll also gain more by staying.  That's the ideal anyway.  That's what we consider a healthy relationship.

You also shouldn't rush into anything long-term until you're ready for that level of commitment.  Many sociologists and s*x therapists recommend spending at least two birthdays with someone, before committing to anything serious like a marriage.  This will give you time to truely know whether it's really love, and not just lust.  If marriage is meant to last forever, it really shouldn't matter how long you wait to begin it.  It's better to be sure, and the only real test is time.  With enough time, you'll be sure.  Everything becomes clear with enough time.

Best of luck in life and love.  :-)

Answer 2

It's a faith based thing.  You feel all the feelings you wanna feel, and you hope they do nothing but last and grow as time goes on.

The more experience you have with relationships, the better you get at noticing the feelings that mean you've got something good going on.