Hmm maybe people are afraid to tell me this because I'm being nice, but how do u feel about touching?

Question

Ok, I only put my hands on people when I'm in a good mood and it's in a friendly way. Like whenever someone does something nice, I can't help pat them on the shoulder or grip their shoulder and say "ooohhhh my god, thank you sooo much. That is so nice of u." Like earlier my Aunt gave me ten dollars and I reached over and hugged her. I am a guy by the way and 21 years old. It's always touching on the shoulder or arm area, but I realized something. It really would be kind of hard for a person to say "Don't touch me," while I am doing that because it is in a nice gentle way. So I am wondering would u like this or hate this? How would u feel if it was in a good mood? Would it bother u? Hard to tell me not to do it? I guess I just assumed everyone liked it but idk when I really think about it

Answer 1

I'd be fine with it, as long as you were smiling, Sweety.  (unlike your avatar)

Answer 2

No that wouldn't bother me at all. It's just a kind gesture. It's not like you're grabbing at people in inappropriate places.. haha.

Answer 3

It wouldn't bother me at all! I think ur just being nice. Sometimes though you can tell if a person is stand-offish or not, but i don't think it's bad.

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Answer 4

I don't mind someone touching my arms, or shoulders if were talking in a friendly manner. I have of course run across a few people that are just to touchy, and I normally handle that by just taking a few steps back.

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Answer 5

ya, i would like it. I am a touchy person as well tho.  

Answer 6

It woudn't bother me...;) I think it's really nice...

Answer 7

I wouldnt mind it at all, I'm 'friendly touch-er myself and when other people do it, it makes me feel like thay are really comfortable with me or the situation we are in, weather it be in a group or a intimate setting. I know not all people do this but for the ones who do, it's great because its basically an instant comfot symbol.

Answer 8

I think you can judge by the way someone reacts when you touch them.  I think if it's a good mood thing then they probably don't mind it, but if you put your hand on someone and they pull back or turn away from your grip, then it's a good sign they aren't comfortable.  But I think you would know it if they didn't like it.  I'd say relax and figure it's okay most of the time.  I guess for me I'd be okay if I know you well enough or if we were in a context where that would be acceptable.  Hope this helps, good luck

Answer 9

i wouldnt mind!!! TOUCH ME TOUCH ME...DO IT!!! lower!!! lol kiddin! but you have to be careful...some pple dont like being touched at all...i knew this chick a while back...she would freak out even if some1 would pat on the shoulder to get her attention...it would be like...excuse me and she'd say...Omg dont touch me!!! lol

Answer 10

i always touch people!!! (my friends of course..)

and they seem to don't care.. they touch me back so..

i am always with my girl-friends and we are always holding hands or something..

but i only touch female people.. i don't know..

guys would freak out.. now that i think of it.. all my friends are girls.. ha!

but yeah, i think it's ok to touch people IF you know that it was not annoy them or make them feel uncomfortable..  

Answer 11

id wood like it! i do the same thing!

Answer 12

I love to touch people. Lets say I liked a girl, I'd go out of my way to touch her. But for me, I can't stand when people touch me. Unless I like the person a lot, I don't want them touching me. Idk, it freaks me out haha and I'll be honest with them and say "Stop touching me I'm serious I really don't like it" But if the girl is cute, and I like her, I have no problem with her touching me. My boyfriend is the only guy I want touching me, anyone else.. please don't. hahaa

Answer 13

I donesn't seem like you are being too pushy or aggressive about it ...so I would say that it's fine. It's natural to want to reach out to people like you do and for people to want to be on the receiving end of it. You sound like a kind person :)

Answer 14

I have always been uncomfortable with being touched, so I let people know that from the start. I don't say "Don't touch me", I'm more polite about it, but I have my own personal boundaries, and I have to feel really comfortable with someone before I don't feel creeped out.

Answer 15

    You're really not going to like my answer, be kind, but I'd tell you straight out, "You're not to touch me." And, in fact, I have told people that. Even,"You're not to lay a finger on me" comes to mind. Sorry, I work with a lot of people.