Hmm.. why do i do this?

Question

For some reason when ever i start to like someone.. as soon as the person starts to like me back i begin to get scared and i loose interest.

I'm afraid that if i actually date the person someone better will come along and i will be stuck. >.<;

i want to stop doing this.. but in order to do that i need to figure out WHY i do it...

I am a Leo and i guess that has something to do with it.. if you believe in that stuff.

I can be shallow at times.. i like guys that other people like because it makes me feel good i guess ;_;

I dunno..

How do i fix this?

Any advice?

Answer 1

I&#039;m the same way.

I think a lot of times guys are more attractive when they seem unattainable. It&#039;s like seeing that blackberry at Best Buy and being broke - you want it even more, even if you don&#039;t need one, or would really ever use it. But then a lot of times when you buy it, you lose interest and move on to the next thing. Ipod, new stereo, etc. And that thing doesn&#039;t seem so great anymore. You might wonder why you thought you wanted it in the first place.

It does sound a little like you haven&#039;t found anyone &quot;right&quot; for you. Do you have guy friends? That could be the way to go for a while, instead of finding some hot piece of manflesh to moon over, find a guy who you really enjoy talking to and hanging out with, non-romantically. Sometimes the best romances happen between friends.

Could be also that you just like the idea of these boys, not the boys themselves. When they express interest it makes it more real. Maybe you just enjoy &quot;the chase.&quot; Maybe deep down you don&#039;t really want a relationship right now, you just want to enjoy the view. I wouldn&#039;t push this with yourself - you&#039;ll know when you&#039;re ready for a relationship, and you shouldn&#039;t have one if you don&#039;t actually want one - you&#039;ll hurt yourself and the boy in question. This won&#039;t last your whole life, I promise. I&#039;ve had a long-term relationship before, and it was with my best friend. It was pretty epic. ;]

So my advice is: when you start feeling like you like a boy, ask yourself logical questions like, what would a relationship with this person be like? Would I like being in a relationship with them? What do I actually like about them? Could I stand being with them for more than four seconds? Imagine they&#039;ve expressed interest in you - try to picture how you&#039;d feel about it, and what you&#039;d want to happen next. How are you similar? How are you different? Could you live with these differences - I mean *really* live with them? What about them might start to bother you in the long run?

Hope this helps a bit, it&#039;s what I do: overanalyze. Works wonders. ;P Good luck!

Answer 2

At this stage in your life you like the challenge of getting a guy to like you, and once he starts to pay attention to you the challenge is over and you are free to move on to the next pray.  While you are young, this is a common game. My guess is you are still very young, once you get a little older and a bit more mature, you will actually want to be involved with someone and be involved in a more serious relationship. Until then, enjoy...you&#039;re only young once!!!