Holiday with my dad?

Question

this year i was on holiday with my dad and sister,

we was like 3 days into the holiday and his girlfriend turned up.

we had never met his girlfriend before,

on the last day of the holiday she didnt even talk to me or my sister,

i dont like her at all.

is what he did that bad?

Answer 1

Hi,

It was wrong of your dad to include his girlfriend on the trip with you two girls.

He has not even introduced you to his girlfriend before so to throw all of you in the deep end on a holiday is asking too much.

He should have given you two girls his undivided attention and seen his girlfriend at another time.

He should have gently eased his girlfriend into your lives and given you all enough time to get use to the idea.

BUT remember what he did was wrong but don't be a total ***** to her. She was probably a bit overwhelmed by the situation too and you may actually like her. Get time getting to know her.

I know you love your dad and find it hard seeing him with another woman, but surely if you love your dad, you want him to be happy?

Lx

Answer 2

He probably shouldve warned you she was coming. Touchy subject....I imagine he doesnt feel he needs your approval to date anyone, so I wouldnt say much about it other than something like "Can you let me know next time when you expect company?" Then I would ask him gently if she felt offended by your behavior, maybe she picked up on your disapproval from the time she arrived. If she makes your dad happy, you might try giving her another chance...its better than hurting your dad.

Answer 3

yes it was rude for him to invite her on yalls trip/holiday since you haven't even meet her what you need to do is sit down and talk to him tell him that you didn't appreciate him just up and inviting her when he should have been spending time with you and your sister tell him how she treated you don't let it keep going it will only get worse she should have spoke to yall but trust me tell him how you feel let him know don't be afraid to hurt his feelings i mean think about it

Answer 4

yes it is let me warn you, you will never get along with your Dad's girlfriend/wife from a person with experience there ALL b*****s and think they no the lot and there most important!

Play tricks on her be mean just basically make her life h**l until they brake up. Have fun hehe (:

x

Answer 5

Yes.

Next?

Answer 6

Very bad form to invite somebody on holiday without getting the agreement of the remainder of the party in advance.

Such behaviour is also rather stupid as instead of endearing you and your sister to the new girlfriend, it is always likely to cause animosity, even where there would otherwise be none.

Answer 7

If you mean was your dad bad for inviting her, maybe a little for not pre -warning you but not for inviting her. I'll bet he paid. She's not so nice though if she didn't talk to you.

Answer 8

Yes, he should of been enjoying his time with you and your sister x

Answer 9

1st question, even though you never met her did you know about her?  If not then it was totally in bad taste, if you knew about her than unless he promised it would just be the 3 of you or something, you had to have had some expectation that she may be along for the ride.  Since he didn't tell you two that she would be there perhaps he didn't tell her either.  As far as not talking to you and your sister, some people who don't have children of their own have a hard time relating to children.  Who knows in time you may actually like her.

Answer 10

I don't think the surprise visit is what you should be concerned about, it will be difficult for both of you to meet eachother for the 1st time, it is an awkward situation, but if she made no attempt to get to know you, she obviously doesn't love your father for the right reasons, she wouldnt be with him unless she was prepared to accept you and your sister as part of the 'package' so to speak (no offence), or if there was something in it for her.

I don't know if your father has alot of money, but yo should be weary either way, try to find out about her past, and confront your father first about the fact that she didnt say anything to you, and then confront her, if she tries to give you a fake story, you know shes no good!

Best of luck, I hope both you and your father find the right happiness!