Holidaying without 7 month old daughter ok?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been planning a 5 night holiday for some time now but as it gets closer I am begining to feel really bad about leaving our daughter behind. I read some articles that say some horrible things about leaving your infant- how tramatised they get, how it will cause them ongoing problems... etc etc. She will be staying with her grandma, who also has two youngish children (10/14) so shes still "with it" but she wont be staying at our place. She cant come with us (and would defeat the purpose if she did). Any honest opinions would be appreciated- whichever position you take. Just have no idea whether Im doing the right thing or if shes too young

Answer 1

first of all, she is to young to be "traumatized" by you leaving her for a week or so, babies have no sense of time. you are there and then you are not then you are. taking a vacation is perfectly fine. make sure you send any comfort items she may have. if you wear perfume, spray a blankie with it and send it too. she will be fine.  

Answer 2

Go for it love. Baby will be fine, you need to get away and have some alone and some couple time. You ll be happy when you get home to see them but go and enjoy it.

Answer 3

I think you're just having some separation anxiety. It's not like you are leaving her with strangers, you are leaving her with grandma. It'll give then both some time to bond.

Answer 4

You're doing the right thing.

GO!  Have fun!

Honest, your little girl will be fine.  She'll be with someone who knows and loves her, and she'll be perfectly-well taken care of.

You'll miss her more than she will miss you, but that's OK ... leaving her for a few days will do wonders for you.  You'll learn that it's fine to leave her with a trusted caregiver, so that in the future you'll worry less.  

Please don't give up a long-anticipated holiday because you're having second thoughts.  Go have some grown-up fun for a few days!

Answer 5

I don't think it would be a problem shes not going to remember this so I don't think it would effect her in any way. Just bring some toys and blankets to remind her of home and she will be fine. Shes going to be girl grandma thats the best thing next to a mom and dad. She will be fine and have fun you will too.

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with going away for 5 nights. If you haven't already I do suggest a couple of smaller get aways before you do a five night stretch. That could be traumatic for the baby. Have a sitter, maybe grandma, watch the baby for a weekend at least. You don't want the first time you're apart to be a five night holiday. This is something better to work up to. She isn't to young, it won't cause problems, etc. But it is important to work your way up to it especially if she's staying at someone else's house. It will give you a chance to work out all the details and make your five night holiday enjoyable for everyone, including your baby girl.

Answer 7

Traditional families prior to WWII consisted of extended families, which were great for raising children, The new techniques for teaching children today incorporate those lessons that are no longer available to today's transient family groups.  Leaving your child with grandma AND Grandpa is actually a good thing for both of you.  So is having 1 meal a day together as a family group a good way to keep your child out of jail in the future.  So go ahead and have a good time.

Answer 8

Don't worry. She is staying with her grandma. I think she'll be fine. I don't think it will traumatize her. But truth be told I have never left my kids for more than a night so I don't know for sure what would happen. If you are really stressed out about it cut the vacation in half. Stay 3 days and 2 nights. My oldest who is 5 has only done one nighters at her grandmas and my 2 year old hasn't done any. I know when my cousin was little his mom would drop him off at my mom's house for more than a week and he never seemed upset or traumatized from his mom being away for so long. So, I think you need to do what feels right. If it feels wrong being gone so long, cut the trip shorter. If you feel she'll be fine then go the whole time. I couldn't do it for that long but that is how I feel.