So my very bright and darling child had the tantrum of all tantrums today---in public---at the pool.
The reasons he was upset, in his words, were plenty. First, he burst into tears the moment we got to the pool, telling me that and HE wanted to open the gate by himself and not for me to do it. (I should have seen this as a warning to go back home)!
He was then swimming and having great fun, until all of a sudden he wanted his kickboard to turn left. Like a switch was flipped, he quickly became a frantic and sobbing mess. He was kicking wildly, flailing his arms, and shrieking. Everyone who knew him and saw it was in shock. He has always been the "good" kid at the pool that never is bothered by anything.
Then he wanted his friend's little plastic whale and cried.
Then wanted to stop swimming to go ride bikes and cried.
Then he threw another fit as we were leaving, screaming at me that he wanted to listen now. He was using a VERY big voice, one that he has never used to me or anyone ever. He was demanding, and giving ME orders.
I finally scooped him up, without talking, and took him home. I then talked to him about what all had just happened. I told him what he did was wrong and not acceptable. I tried to pick his brain a little and find out why he was so upset, but I wasn't able to get him to tell me much other than sorry he acted bad. I punished him and told him what for.
My darling child, who is the apple of my eye, became the kid today that no one can stand to have around. He literally was kicking and screaming and making choking/gurgling sounds. *Over the kickboard not turning left.*
What is normal behavior for this age?
He has always been a delight. We have had no major changes in our family. He has been enjoying his summer very much, as we have been going to the beach, taking small trips, and spending lots of time together as a family. I have seen him grow a lot this summer. He seems to have gained more confidence in himself and has become much more social and outgoing, dare I say 'bold'.
What is going on in this little child's head? Why the sudden frustration and screaming? Is it hormonal? Is it a phase?
What can I do as a parent to help him gain control over his temper? I want him to be a well-adjusted adult one day. I want this problem to be nipped in the bud before he gets older and is taller than I am.
I do watch Supernanny, and I thought I was doing everything right. We have never given in to his smaller tantrums of the past; we know better than that! He has never giving us any real trouble until just recently, as his tantrums have been getting worse and for nonsense-reasons (such as a cereal box not facing up on the grocery store conveyer belt at the cash register....or having me unbuckle his carseat instead of his dad...or vice versa!)
I am looking for advice from psychologists, social workers, teachers, parents, and anyone who knows about 4-year-old behavior.
Thanks in advance!
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