Homeschoolers, is this a solution to some misunderstanding about HS?

Question

I’ve noticed that when parents advocate homeschooling in cases of abuse and bullying in public schools, they are told that their children need to stay in school and learn to take the bullying. Life, they tend to say, is not about choices. Children must learn to submit and toughen up. They must face rejection and daily social castigation as a fact of life. This, they often call “socialization”.

But then there are those who claim homeschool parents are control freaks that fear free thought and isolate their children in order to become some sort of parental thought police.

Should we get these camps together? Do their arguments cancel each other out? Forget that both of these wild imaginings are untrue. Do you think they’d disagree or just come up with a third straw man argument to malign homeschool families?

Anti-HS: which camp are you in? We’re control freaks or we allow our kids to make choices where no choice should exist?

Answer fast! This will most likely be deleted. Every other Q I post on this topic is reported and deleted by our friendly neighborhood report monkeys.

Answer 1

They're entire argument is based on emotional appeal and faulty psychological science. They seem to think that anti social behavior does not happen in public schools. I'm sure you know it happens MUCH more than among home schoolers. They seem to forget that Home schoolers, on average, and there are certainly exceptions, possess much more skill in dealing with the real world and college. Especially adults.

They don't care about teh FACTS, they're goal is to create a unified, soical education system. Period.

BTW, I am an 18 year old sophomore with a GPA of 3.7 and have many friends.

Logic escapes these people's minds.

Answer 2

I think they would some how come up with that the two arguments are both true LOL.  I am so glad at least where I live most people are very accepting of homeschoolers.  The only time I have seen anything negative about it is on-line.  I just really don't understand how people don't see how the public school system more often than not is the one brain washing our kids and no I am not talking religiously either even though I am a Christian.  That wasn't the reason I started to homeschool even though people seem to assume that too LOL.  Oh well that's why I just ignore the people who have no info what so ever on homeschooling who make assumptions that are just untrue.  There will always be a straw man.

Answer 3

Not that this is really a question, but moreso an invitation to anti homeschoolers so you can abuse their opinion... BUT...  I think that it depends on the person...  some home school families are control freaks and some are doing it for the sake of sheltering their kids from certain issues that will undoubtably come up within their adult life.

Answer 4

I don't think there's hope for either side.  Both seem incapable of logical thinking.

Glad you took your gloves off!

Answer 5

I don't think that they'll cancel each other out, but maybe they'll just get exhausted with trying to fight each other and leave us alone?

Oh, that it would happen :-)

Answer 6

So if we put them in a room together, we'd create a black hole?

Cool.

I don't think there is a solution. In general, people want to own their opinions without regard to logic or truth and resent being faced with either.

Answer 7

All I can say is this!

Bullies, school shootings, in school abuse by teachers or staff, DRUGS, school over crowding, lack of one-on-one attention, teachers sexually, and verbally abusing students is just some of the problems with the school systems!

It is only FAIR that parents have the right to home school their children since all these serious problems are going on and the schools are more worried about our children adapting to it instead of fixing the problems, or better yet, actually involving the parents more!

Just an example is in our school system, our students wear uniforms. The school will call the parent at work and demand they pick their child up or bring whatever part of the uniform that the student is not correctly dressed in! They are more worried about a belt or socks than the kids being there and learning!

As far as those that think that home school parents are control freaks that fear free thought, sounds to me like they are the ones calling the kettle black!!!!! The schools are the ones that are CONTROLLING and lack the intelligence to give our kids the freedom of thought and promote them to be leaders instead of followers!

Answer 8

Research.

Each person should really find out if what they are saying is true or if they are merely parroting the comments of someone else.

"trust and parrot" type thinking will only perpetuate more misinformation.

The truth can be found by actually meeting people that are home-school parents and students.  Research facts can be found through many sites including www.nheri.org and www.hslda.org

The arguments against home-schooling are usually so ridiculous that it is amazing to me that anyone believes what is being said.

More truth about home-schools can be found through search engines.  And even more hands-on and practical findings can be had by attending a home-school conference.  LISTEN to the real people in the real world of home-schooling --- that's how to become un-misinformed! ;-)

(report monkeys.... teehee.)

Answer 9

The only solution is to figure out how to have them develop a sense of logic, open-mindedness and true reason. They don't accept that their position is perhaps illogical, closed-minded or irrational so they won't be open to even considering understanding HS in its true light.

It's like sone of the anecdotes sent in to a journalist (or some other form of writer) for craziest comments made about homeschooling: one was a man conversing with a homeschool mom, at a park where there were tons of kids playing, and upon finding out that the children were homeschooled, made some comment about homeschooled kids never getting a chance to play with other kids; my favourite is, "If you were more involved in your child's education, you wouldn't need to homeschool."

It's pure irrational, illogical thinking. Not even willing to see the other side for a second. (And before someone accuses me of something, am I willing to look at the other side? Yes. I do. It's part of what makes me direct my homeschooling in certain ways to avoid certain results that DO happen among some families.)

Answer 10

I was forced by my parents to be homeschooled all my life I never even been in a public school. My parents are major control freaks. Altrough my life is screwed up i do see a lot of people having great sucess with homeschooling so i do still support it.