Homeschooling parents: How do you clean your house???

Question

I have a 6, 4, and 2 month old. I am trying to have a little school time with my 6 year old (who is in kindergarten) and some preschool time with my 4 year old. I feel like I am spending more time cleaning than playing with or teaching my children anything!

I've got the "scrubbing" down. I've broken the big stuff up into days. One day, I'll scrub the bathroom, and another day, I'll mop the floors, etc. But, it's the little stuff that's killing me: laundry, doing dishes, picking up, etc. And we haven't even hit a full on curriculum yet!

Does anyone have any advice? How do you organize your day so you can get everything done???

Answer 1

make picture lists for the kids and teach them to help it is a practical application and you can still get the school part done too. go to NoGreaterjoy.org they have lots of advise on homeschool and ideas for the kids....it is very helpful

Answer 2

You have to let go of some things.  For instance, with laundry, it's not so hard to get it washed - it's the putting away.  I've enlisted my 9 y.o. for help with that one.  I also have one laundry (a collapsable type) basket for each person in the family.  As I remove clothes from the dryer, they are sorted into each person's basket.  Then I take them all to my master bedroom to sort and fold.  As long as they're clean, that's my main concern.  If someone needs socks, they can go straight to their basket to look for it - no need to dig through a giantic pile of everyone's stuff.  If DH and I's clothes are laying on the recliner, and not hung up yet, at least we know where to find them, and they're clean.

I had to give up on a lot of perfection when I became a HS mom.  I try to focus on the daily stuff that has to be done - cooking and doing dishes.  Laundry is done once a week (works best for me).  I try to run errands only on one day and make a long day of it so I don't break up days all the time.

Many HS'er love following the Fly Lady's techniques.  I do some of her stuff, but not all of it.  She has a page on her site just for HS'ing.

Also, with cooking, I do things like purchase 16 lbs of ground beef and turkey and cook it all at once, then freeze it in one and two-pound portions.  It's already seasoned, too.  I use my crock pot a lot.  I have a stockpile of recipes in my recipe book at AllRecipes.com.  I'm almost done making out a six week menu rotation.

Those are just a few things off the top of my head.  Oh, and I use our kitchen island for DS to do work where he needs to ask me stuff but not for me to be right there.  He can work at the island while I cook or do dishes, etc.  He does a lot of independent work, which is nice.

I also don't answer the phone during schooling times unless it's important, like a doctor's office calling.

I try to just keep the "public" parts of the house clean and the bedrooms and basement I don't stress so much about.  With more people home every day the house gets untidy quicker.  If I worked and the kids were in a B&M school, the house would have 8 less hours a day to get messy :-).

EDITED TO ADD:  Oh, and DH gives me one night a week of "mom" time and three hours in a block on the weekends.  If I'm at home, no one is to talk to me.  I can choose to do work or I can relax - my choice.  On weekends I usually do errands sans kids because I can get so much more done.

Answer 3

I try so hard to follow Fly Lady's plan.  Sometimes I do better than others, but don't sweat the small stuff.   Your children are young and it gets easier.  It will get clean eventually.  And when they are grown and gone, I guess we will have clean houses  ......    but oh my how quiet it will be!  Enjoy your babies and do your best and smile a lot !  When you are happy and smile and welcome people into your loving home, they won't give the dust bunnies a second thought.

http://www.flylady.net/

Answer 4

Can I suggest something? www.flylady.net

I can do any thing in 15 minutes!

Answer 5

I enlist help from the kids during the day, but most of my real cleaning gets done at night after the kids are all in bed. My husband works 3rd shift, so once the kids go to bed, it's easy for me to zip around and get everything done real quick. Then when I wake up, I'm not bombarded by all the junk that didn't get done the day before.

Answer 6

I will just second the Fly Lady website. It helped me tremendously!

Don't get to bogged down with a curriculum. Try to combine classes and go easy on yourself. My biggest problem was that I thought I had to school for 8 hours like public school does. In reality, you can get through much more material much quicker.

Good luck!

Answer 7

I make my children help where they can. I divide my cleaning by days ie monday is kitchen 2 loads of wash. Do the dishes as soon as your done eating. Relax house work is always with you your children are not.  Ask your husdand to watch the kids while you work or ask him to help more.

Answer 8

Unschooling will solve your need for a "full on curriculum".

Answer 9

I get up about two hours before the kids, and get the main things done.

In the evening I start a load of laundry, place it in the dryer, and go to bed.

With all the little ones you may have to add another one in the washer before retiring, and switch them in the morning.

You can teach them by letting them help, and spending time with them; leave the main cleaning for later, and do let your husband know it takes two !!

Make simple meals that they can help with as well.

Lower your standards/expectations for a while as well; at least until they are a little older; it's okay to have a clean house, but not at the expense of having a *home*.

It will start all over again when they are teenagers :-)

Teach them what is truly important, the house will still be there tomorrow, or next week for that matter.

A home needs to be clean enough to be healthy, and messy enough to be comfortable.

My motto if you (company or in-laws) don't like it, feel free to start picking it up, it won't hurt my feelings none.

A friend recently put it this way; if you are here to visit me, you are welcome, if you are here to see or critique the house, make an appointment; I say Amen.

So grab some baskets, place them around the house, and pick up on the end of the day; great way to let them practice basket ball :-)

Answer 10

One thing you may try is to integrate the house jobs into learning experiences and teachable moments for your children.  Look at doing the dishes--it could be a counting lesson, a science lesson ( drying time when rinsed in cold vs hot water), or  a study of shape classification (circles of different sizes,etc.). Cleaning is a great lesson in science-read and investigate labels.  Why does a vacuum work and what exactly is a vacuum?  When my children were young we would have "Pick-up Parades", whereby when it was time to put things away we would make a game out of it. Items had to be done by color, size, counting to a certain number etc.  If you look at ordinary everyday things in this way, most everything one comes in contact with can be used to educate.  Good luck and hang in there!

Answer 11

One thing that helped me was to start a load of laundry each morning first thing, change laundry during school breaks, clean one or two rooms each day during the childrens rest time while they were younger.  As they have gotten older, they now help with certain chores and it has lightened the load tremendously.  I am a list maker so for me making lists have helped.  I know what needs to be done have a schedule.  Different days hold different chores but in the end they all get done.

Answer 12

Sorry... had to smile at that one! I didn't home school but my parents did.  Mom used to have us help as part of our 'life-learning' curriculum.  Since your children are still young finding age-appropriate things might be more challenging but the bonding time helps you and the children.

Answer 13

works out great for me but i dont have little ones mines 14  he does online studies i do it while he works and saturdays

Answer 14

1.  Lower your standards (tidiness not the cleanliness part)

2.  Break up the tasks - I try to start one load of laundry each morning before the kids are up.  Switch it to the dryer at lunch.  Fold and put away after kids are in bed.  

3.  Enlist help - my husband helps with the dishes and folding laundry each night.  We also have a cleaning person come in a few times a month for the heavy duty cleaning (I know this isn't always financially possible but it's worth it to us so we skip meals out in order to have some help)

4.  Minimize the damage the little ones do - I try to keep them all engaged in activities at the kitchen table (they are 7, 5 and 2).  If the older 2 are doing schoolwork, I give the youngest some crayons and paper to color or a puzzle to work on at the table.  

5.  Take a day off from school every once in awhile to get caught up on the household chores - public schools have inservice days and teacher-conference days - you can take a day off once or twice a month too!

6.  Have some quiet time or recess time after lunch each day.  While they are playing or resting, spend 30-45 minutes doing a quick pick up downstairs.  

The key thing is that not everything gets done around the house (especially since the kids are still young).  My house tends to be much tidier in the summer when we are spending less time on schoolwork (although we do school year round).

Answer 15

If my mum was answering this, she'd tell you that she does it by getting us (the kids) trained early, lol. She reckons if you're old enough to walk, you're old enough to start learning how to take care of yourself.

I've got siblings aged 4 and 6 and they manage to help out with chores around here so, if you think about it, there are prolly plenty of things your 6 and 4 yr olds could handle doing - even if it's just the little stuff like putting laundry away, making their beds and setting/clearing the table.

Answer 16

Cleaning is a state of mind and sometimes you just have to let things go.

  Have the kids help you with the laundry and dishes and picking up (no they are not too young other than the 2 month old :p).....mine is 9 yrs old and she has been 'helping' since she was 2. She is responsible for sorting the laundry into color piles, emptying the dryer and folding/putting her clothes away. She is also in charge of putting the dishes in the dishwasher and starting it when it is full>>>we have a rule in our house, whoever doesn't cook that night does the dishes.

Also in our house we go by the old saying 'A place for everything and everything in it's place' and school is done in an area where the 'mess' can be contained (we are lucky enough to have a spare room that we use as a schoolroom).

Another rule we 'try' to follow is an old pioneer rule>>>

Wash on Monday

Iron on Tuesday

Mend on Wednesday

Churn on Thursday

Clean on Friday

Bake on Saturday

Rest on Sunday

While we are not pioneers anymore, you can design this saying your own way.

Bottom line, give them areas that are theirs to keep neat and tidy, have them help you and remember 'Dirtyer than some, cleaner than most.'

Answer 17

My daughters are only 2 and almost 4. They help me. We set the timer and they have a challenge. We might need to pick up the living room; I set the timer say for 3 mintues and they have to get all the books on the book shelf. Yay! They win the challange! Then I set the timer for another 3 mintues and all the blocks need to be put in the basket. Yay! They win another challenge! within just a few minutes the floor is clean, the room is neat and we are ready to vacuum. The timer is set again and I 'help' them use the vacuum, one at a time, until the timer beeps, then it is the other kids turn.

Both my girls are really, really into being first, winning and playing games right now so this works out beautifully for us. We even use it to get dressed without arguments.

Answer 18

I don't know if this will help, but here goes:

1. Remember that you cannot be all things to all people. Something is going to suffer. I know one homeschool mom who just flat out asked her husband if he preferred a clean house or hot meals. He picked a clean house and sandwiches for dinner. The children's education was a given. Prioritize. Be willing to sacrifice something.

2. www.FLYLady.net This changed my life. No joke. It sounds too simple to work, but it does. If you want a miracle fix, this program is it. It works great for parents with careers outside the home too.

3. Let greed work for you! I know a homeschooling mom who has a paid staff. That staff is made up of her kids and she pays pocket change, but the kids don't care. Instead of one weekly allowance, she pays by the chore. The kids get ambitious and try get more chores than their siblings, thus more cash.

4. Routine. I'm dead in the water without it.

5. Are the kids helping? Even when they do a sloppy job, praise them and let it go. They will be proud and you will have less to worry about.

Answer 19

Routines, routines, routines. Flylady might help, but I left her as I found she was very commerical. But you can still set up routines. Have a breakfast routine--make sure that your two oldest help clean up and that all dishes are done before you move onto something else. Have a lunch routine, with the 6 and 4yo's helping again to clean up anything that's out and get lunch going. Make sure you do your lunch dishes before moving onto something else. Have a pre-supper cleaning time.

I drove myself crazy for a couple of months one year when I was looking after a 5yo as well as my 4yo and my 1yo. How? I spent my entire day picking up after the kids! I realized what I was doing was insane and did 2 things: 1) limited how many things could be accessed (stuff was stored away and they had to ask permission to get it, which meant having the first thing cleaned up); 2) allowed the mess (which was smaller due to #1) and had the GIRLS clean it up at the routine times I had set up (before lunch, before going out somewhere, etc.). It truly is possible to spend the entire day doing housework if we have in our minds that our goal is to "be done". There's no such thing as being done. So set it up so that housework is only certain times of the day.

Laundry can be part of that routine: throw a load in at breakfast, put it in the dryer at lunch, fold it up just before supper (your two oldest can help!).

Above all, keep in mind that having a 2mo can THOROUGHLY make things difficult. It's okay if you don't have a even a half-hour to spend with one or the other child. It'll come.

Answer 20

It isn't easy.  But think of it this way:  You have a job - you're a teacher now.  Just as you would have to go to work at another job and set everything else in your home aside, set aside certain hours of the day to have school time with your kids.  If your schedule varies, of course you can vary those hours, but at the beginning of each day, think of a time that would work for you:  "At 10:00, I'm going to spend an hour on letters with (whatever child)" etc.  When that time comes, forget everything else.  Clothes in the washer can wait until later to go in the dryer; toys can be left on the floor for another hour or two.

And just generally try not to be too much of a neat-freak :-)