Honest answers...do you think women are mean to women who are beautiful?

Question

Now I am not tooting my own horn...I'm being honest...I am attractive (I used to model in my teens) and I have always had trouble with other women...they can be bitchy to me before they even know me....on first meeting me I am often given the cold shoulder within seconds...I have a good amount of friends and I try to be open and smile and be friendly..but there is always a type of woman who is very sniffy with me....is it because I am attractive or should I consider that not everyone is friendly. Please help..I want to try to be the sort of person who gets on with everyone.

Answer 1

I do think you have many valid points.  My own experience with women and my affect on them lead me to think many of the same things you do.  Now do not get upset.  I am not tooting my own horn either.  I have never described myself as beautiful.  That I leave to the beholder. But when I say / said things like you have to others,  women were the ones to get angry.  Even some women who have known me would get angry.  So I always prefer to let others offer that perspective and prefer not to think it, unless there is no other plausible answer.  Otherwise, it is just a convenient excuse for people reacting negatively.

Answer 2

I think yes there are mean to those women who are better and attractive. As for example, one of my friends is always envy me.

Answer 3

oh i definitely feel that women can do that. especially those that are insecure with themselves, or just catty in general. a lot of us can be really jealous and just simply fear that because another woman is beautiful we may lose our importance or our significant others. i have also noticed that women shun the girls who aren't exactly tom boys but hang out with guys a lot, mostly a catty jealous thing. my advice: smile at them, and try to bestow a compliment that will make them feel a little bit more at ease with themselves and not go into "automatic beautiful-person judgement mode." and of course, you do need to take into consideration that some people just arent friendly and sometimes you cant do anything about it. so just try complimenting people and keep yourself approachable.

Answer 4

Opps..."I want to try to be the sort of person who gets on with everyone." indicates a charactor flaw to me!

I'm extremely unconcerned about wot anyone thinx of me!

But in answer to yer kwestion; YES, women & men are always crude, rude & socially unacceptable fer a variety of reasons but being mean to anyone attractive is easier fer these dummies to accept as righteous!

Go figger!

Best wishes, K-den, M1

Answer 5

yeah that's exactly y. They look at u n think "look @ this h*e thinkin she the s*it" It is cuz ur attractive they feel intimidated. Especially unattractive or chubby girls they feel they need to be b*tches cuz they hatin' don't stress on them though u don't need to be friendly to haters it's their fault they being negative not yours. don't stress them be you whoever don't like it oh well.

Answer 6

Yes and no.

Some women do act bitchy and snotty because they do think ur attractive. Most of the time they might think ur concieted or something. They might just walk into the room and see you. And know ur attractive. Know u look better than them or just as good. And feel compition. And right then and there judge u and say u think u look better. Harsh but true.

Some women might think ur attractive and feel these things and try and befriend u for there own personal gain. From what ur looks can bring if they hang out with u. For example at a bar or club free drinks alot of hot guy attention ect.

Then theres girls tht think ur so pretty and attractive and still gives u the benifit of the doubt and trys to befriend the person not the beauty.

Hope i helped.

N good luck n the future but its gonna happen ever where and ne where. Just still be true to yourself. Dont let stupid people get u down

Answer 7

I always look at a persons personality first. The way a woman looks is really of no importance. If she has a beautiful personality then that accents her looks. If on the other hand she is bitchy and rude then her looks to me are of no  importance. The same goes with men.

Answer 8

I think they're bitchy to you because you're a dork.

Answer 9

I think some women really are mean to beautiful women out of jealousy or insecurity.  Some are also mean because they have been snubbed in the past by beautiful women who knew they were and thought they were better than everyone else.  If you just make a point to be friendly and personable with everyone, and take an interest in their lives, the ones that have an open mind will come around.  The rest of them don't matter anyway, they're bitter and unpleasant and who wants to waste any time on them anyway.

Answer 10

I don't think looks START the argument, but I do think it can aid in it. Although it always depends on the person.

I personally think everyone can be attractive in their own way, and all that person needs is a little acceptance and self-confidence. But personally FOR ME, I would only dislike a beautiful woman for the sole reason that she is gorgeous on the outside but ugly on the inside, and rubs it in other people's faces that she is prettier than you, and pretty much hates me first.

Other than that, I'm just like, "Hey, let's be friends!".

So I think maybe for you, if you just be outgoing, and smile (a REAL smile, it's super easy to tell if it's fake) genuinely. I mean, sure, maybe at the beginning, there might be some jealousy going on, but I think if you let people realize that you're a good person on the inside, they'll soon accept the fact that you are quite possibly prettier than them, and you deserve it too!

Good looks, good personality. What the hey! Make your friends fall in love with you, and become the best of palsies.

But just try and keep on the DL that you're pretty. And complementing the others on their fine points as well can keep their self imagery high, and they can feel confident around you too!

Answer 11

Get that thought out of your head now. Noone will ever be able to get along with everyone they know no matter how kind-hearted that person is. There's always going to be someone that doesn't like you just because...By the way, being attractive may have something to do with it because women are mean to other women they find beautiful.

Answer 12

LOL Interesting question. But to answer, I think it happens sometimes for a variety of reason. I know I personally have to catch myself  sometimes. For example, if my boyfriend and I are at a restaurant, and I think our waitress is cute I have a tendency to be rude. I have noticed what I am doing and go out of my way to change it.

Sometimes, women may  judge you simply because you are attractive. Some women may find it a threat, or have their own insecurities. For whatever reason, you should still be polite. It may be hard but you always catch my flies with honey than you do vinegar. And remember, kill them with kindness. Eventually, they will realize that they have no reason not to dislike you and hopefully will grow up.

Answer 13

I work in a very public place and experience this from women on a daily basis. It's exhausting, I try to keep to myself and have women walking by saying something snotty (without me even glancing in their direction).. It happens more when they have a male companion, also.

Answer 14

maybe you give off a bad vibe, an "I'm beautiful and I know it" vibe..... I'm not insinuating you do give that impression, but maybe you do but don't realize it.

otherwise, I have no idea why people (women specifically) would treat you badly not knowing you. I know lots of attractive (coughI'm not so badmyselfcough lol) and I/they don't get treated that way.

Answer 15

i believe that women are mean

to people whom are conceited.

Answer 16

That's funny...I think people treat me like that because I'm ugly.

Answer 17

As a rule, I don't think so.  I think women are more likely to be mean to beautiful women whom they perceive have an "I'm better than you" attitude.

Answer 18

Hey, little girl

You've posted this same narcissistic question before!

"Look at me!  Look at me!!"

And still, nobody likes you.

Gee, I wonder why....

Ask your therapist.

Answer 19

I think most women tend to have a mean streak as a group

Answer 20

Hey Daisy,

You could always conduct an experiment.

Scrape your hair back, wear some old NH glasses from a charity shop, see whether you can get some goofy teeth from a joke shop, wear baggy clothes - look like someone in the 'before' shot of '10 years younger' or an English Ugly Betty.

Go out and see if it makes a difference :)

Honest answer though, I do think a lot of people react to what they see whether it be beauty, colour, s*x or something else. Do you remember that experiemt a few years ago where they made a black person up to be white and vice versa (can't remember which celebs they were) and they were BOTH shocked about how people reacted to them.

People do tend to assign labels and make assumptions based on 'looks' (E.g, big b***s, blonde hair = stupid)