Honestly do you care what others say about u?

Question

I am 26 years old with extremely low self-esteem. Mainly because I have been told for the majority of my life that I am ugly by family members, schoolmates, and coworkers from every job I've had.

I've had alot of people try to physically fight me all because they don't like the way that i look. I find that standing up to them doesn't really help at all. When i stand up to them, things just get worse. And I fear for my life because you can't underestimate people nowadays.

I tried standing up to a guy that I got into an argument with before. I had just reached the point where I had finally got tired of all the ridicule and started to stand up for myself against this muscular guy who tried to hit me in my face for defending myself against him. He was in my face and I was very afraid. A lady had to get in front of him and push him away from me to prevent him from hitting me.

I am a nice person. I treat people how I want to be treated.

Answer 1

Sometimes

Answer 2

I do not care about what others say, because that's just their opnion. If they say their opinion about me, good that's their thinking, and I should just live my life without them bothering me.

Answer 3

no not at all its just a matter of life occasionally people will not like you no matter how nice you are just accept it and move on

Answer 4

I do care even though I shouldnt. You shouldnt but its hard to say that when people are trying to beat you up. Hang in there.

Answer 5

Your looks won't get you into that much trouble when you get older, maybe school but not work. Because i know ugly people who don't get into trouble like that. You might be argumentative and overly competitive at the same time. You probably got anger issues. At the same time you should stay away from people who you think will cause you trouble instead of worrying about what they think.

If you think your ugly I'm sorry i wish you luck.

There are things you can do to improve this though like going to the gym and eating healthy, going to the dentist getting a make over, things like that.

Stay away from evil people it will help.

Answer 6

yes wish i didnt though!!! hope things get better for you

Answer 7

Well, hun I am very truly sorry that you are going through this. I know what you mean and I know exactly how you feel and what you go through.  And it is good that you learn to take up for yourself. And  yea it sometimes don't work. And when it don't work, then I just walk away from them and not even pay attention. I do whatever I can to just ignore them.  

Don't even worry what others say about you. Not your family, not your friends, not no one. Cause you are who you are and that is how God made you.  Do what makes you feel better about yourself. Cause I do it, to help out my low  self esteem. And yes, i am the same age as you are.

I had ppl made fun of me all of my life and sometimes i still have ppl to bring me down. But I took and think to myself that they are the ones that have a problem, not me.  And they are jealous of certain things that see or know about you.

Beauty is only skin deep, and some ppl don't wanna take and look inside more than they do on the outside.  I look at ppl in the inside, due to the sense of humor, personality, etc.

There is many cruel ppl out there, I know.  Here is something I would like to share with you.  Back in 2001, I had 2 of my cousins beat me up, just because they didn't like me.  I walked back home ( I was living with my parents at the time), with my face all bruised and swollen, and I was crying and hurt and pissed.  My dad asked me what happened and I told him, and he told me to call my mom at her work. So, I did. Well, when she got home, she took pics of my face and gave it to the prosecuting attorney.  Well they had to pay restitution and had 2 yrs of supervised probation.  I wanted them to have more than that. And from then and up til now,  I have nothing to do with them and I don't even claim them.

Since I was a little girl, I had never learn to take up for myself until the 12th grade, I was fed up and had enough.

And it made me a lot stronger and see better perspectives.  There is many other ways to defend for yourself than to fight.

Because, anyone is beautiful in God's eyes. And anymore, I show ppl that it don't bother, and it does. But I show them that it don't, and then they will see it and then they won't bother me about it.  

I hope I had help you out some. And I wish you the very best. Good luck.

Answer 8

i care in a way i suppose, i can't say that what people say don't effect me but i really do try and ignore it, and i don't let it bother me.  and i definitely don't change myself to fit other people's ideal person.  im me take it or leave it

=)

<3 love yourself and people will respect who YOU are.

Answer 9

reading this it sounds like you tend to rub ppl the wrong way. it sounds like your getting into fights because your standoffish?  I don't think ppl are saying your ugly on the outside, who cares what ppl look like.  no one is going to confront you because your not pretty.  i think they must be referring to how you represent yourself.  an ugly person, acts ugly.  

and i don't think you realize your doing it.  you may want to talk to someone who knows you really well, like a bf, and find out what you maybe doing that ppl are reacting negatively too.

Answer 10

no not really

Answer 11

Understand, people won't always treat you the way you treat them. Trust me. Everybody cares about what ppl think. But only to a certain extend. Dont let ppl get to you.

Your self esteem is WHAT YOU MAKE IT! Dont kick yourself so hard. Avoid negative vibes. Do a makeover of the things and ppl around you...

Good Luck...

Answer 12

i do care how people think of meee :)

Answer 13

Ive heard of girls fighting in highschool but at 26? Ive never heard of people wanting to fight  because you look ugly.

After highschool people usually grow up and learn to be civilized. Ive never felt very pretty either but Ive never had people want to fight me about it.

Answer 14

Not really. I'm a part of Gods body. I don't require any other sort of validation.

Answer 15

I don't care, I won't know them in 20 years :)

Answer 16

no

Answer 17

Wow that sucks && yes I care alot about what others say because I'm afraid I'll get embarrassed or not fit in.

Answer 18

I dont' care what they say/think, I am who I am..

Answer 19

Oh my goodness, that's awful! I'm so sorry. I'm glad that you finally tried to stand up for yourself. You need to surround yourself with more positive people. No one deserves to be called ugly, people don't realize that that actually does damage a person. Everyone has the right to feel good about the way they look. You could get a makeover! Not because you're ugly or anything but because sometimes that's all you need to get a boost of confidence :]

and to answer your question: I care what people say about me to an extent and sometimes it makes me feel bad about myself but then I realize that although they may think I'm ugly, or S****y, or whatever that isn't what my friends, or boyfriend, or family thinks about me; in the end it's the people's you care about opinions that matters not some gross muscular guy that needs to put you down to make himself feel good.

Answer 20

try a better style

Answer 21

I don't care much. But I have a very high self esteem.

Answer 22

Life is too short to worry about what others think of you.  The people that talk c**p or do bad things, are the sorry ones.  You must posess some quality that they wish they had, i.e. your kindness?...

Anyways, good luck and just remember, haters are your biggest fans.

Answer 23

My dear.....I know how you feel....I used to be the same way...But now i wake up in the morning and tell myself that I am beautiful and all that jazz...I am a very happy person!!! If you like to read..there is a book called "You can heal you life" By Louise L. Hay. It is very good.....some stuff in it is kinda weird. and kinda just not "Normal" advise....but it is a great book! It helped me sooooo much with my self-esteem and my self worth! You can find the book at Hastings, amzon...whatever...its really good....but if you get the book, get the one with all the colorful pages and pictures...the plain text one is kinda boring....good luck!

Answer 24

Good for you for standing up for yourself. You shouldnt care what anyone else says or thinks about you. The only opinion that matters, is your own! Start appreciating the person you are. :)

Answer 25

Unless someone is outright lying about me, no, I don't care what people say about me. Everyone has opinions, and I have mine. I'm sure I say things that others don't agree with, but I have little concern or time for worrying about whether or not someone else is hurt by what I say. They have the option of staying away from me.

Be yourself and don't let the opinions of others form your self-perception. Your opinion of yourself is the only one that counts at the end of the day.

Answer 26

It doen't bother me what others say.  Opinions are like a**holes, everyone's got one.

Answer 27

No, because noone pays my bills.

I'm a nice person and am nice to people who are nice to me

BUT if someone is mean to me "JUST CUS" then those people and they mean **** to me. If you have somthing to say about me, I really don't care.

like i said noone pays your bills or knows your problems... ignore people. thats what you have to do.

Answer 28

i dont care what people say about me

Answer 29

yes,and also no

Answer 30

I couldn't give a rats **** what people think of me.

I do care however what my family and close friends think of me, as I care about them and so value their opinions.

People have a tendency to project their insecurities on other people, so if they say that you are ugly it usually indicates a insecurity that they have.

Let them be, and live your life how you want to -( so long as its not illegal or hurting anybody that is! )

Be secure in yourself, that is the best way to get back at them, as when they take the p!ss out of you and you show you really don't care it will wind them up immensely, weather they show it or not.

Answer 31

I know how you feel. I do care what people think about me when it comes to family and personal friends. People who don't know me they can just all f off.