Honeymoon, School and Marriage Questions?

Question

My fiance is still in school. We are planning on getting married next fall. The only thing is he will be starting up with his last 2 semesters of school when we marry. Some of my family wants us to wait to go on our honeymoon until after he graduates while others think we should go right after we marry. My dream has always been to marry and then get away by ourselves for a week in paradise. If he was to miss a week of school is there anything he could do before hand so that he wont be so far behind? I am just not sure what we should do. We have both agreed to remain abstinent the 3 years that we have been together and I think that we deserve to have a wonderful honey moon. What should we do?

Answer 1

I am getting married in February 2009 with 2 semesters of school left. Our reception will be over by 3 or 4 on Saturday, so we're going away to spend our wedding night in a very romantic cabin (rose petals, champagne, chocolate covered strawberries). Then after my classes end that semester, we are going on our 'honeymoon'

Hope I helped!

Answer 2

How about going to a really nice hotel in your area for your wedding night and maybe the next night.  Then taking a fantastic honeymoon vacation over the winter break or spring break or summer afte he graduates!

Answer 3

Split the difference, go away over christmas break. I understand wanting to go away right away, and yes you do deserve it. Maybe, since you not getting married for about a year, you could move the wedding up a weekend so you can get married go on your honeymoon and get back in time for school. Good Luck

Answer 4

Kudos to you two for choosing to abstain! Not an easy thing to do in this day and age.

I understand your wanting to marry at the time that you two have planned yet not wanting to interfere with his schooling. You two definitely deserve to have a nice honeymoon without him worrying about missing a weeks worth of school.

Maybe you guys should postpone the wedding until after he's finished school. Or just go on your official honeymoon after he's finished with one of the semesters.

Hope things work out for you!!  

Answer 5

I think it depends on how strict his professors are where he goes to school. During one of my semesters, 2 girls were gone during different weeks because of their respective honeymoons, and they were excused as long as they caught up on the work by their second day back, which was kinda hectic, but worth it. If he's going to a strict school, or in advanced classes, then that might be a problem for him. If it's regular training, or community college, he should be able to get away with it.  

Answer 6

why don't you marry in the summer so he wont be in class, and you can have those TWO MONTHS OF HONEYMOON lol.

CONGRATS

oh, and its great that you guys are waiting, me and my boyfriend too. we have been together for 2.5 years but we are both sophomores in college so we are waiting more time to get married

Answer 7

What about a short mini weekend honeymoon, then go on a real week long vacation over Christmas break?  

Answer 8

Do what sensible, financially, if it only means a small amount of time to wait.

Answer 9

I think you need to understand the terms compromise and sacrifice if you want to be married. I think you should wait until he finishes school to get married but if you can't wait 2 semesters to get married, then you have to delay the honeymoon.

Don't make his education secondary to you having a week of fun-- that's what children do, not mature responsible adults.

Answer 10

I liked taking my honeymoon right after the wedding.  To me, it isn't the same if you don't take the honeymoon right after the wedding.  You could schedule the wedding and honeymoon around his school schedule.  Maybe you could go in the summer instead of in the fall or you could get married after he graduates.  I don't think you will be happy if you don't go on a honeymoon right after the wedding.  

Answer 11

It all depends on what's most important to you and your fiance. You don't know what information he may miss while you're away on a honeymoon. He may miss something quite important... or not.

On the other hand, with having just married, how well will he be able to concentrate on his classes anyway? Will he really be focused on his education or will he be focused on his bride?

It's the gamble you take when you marry while still in school.

Answer 12

have u thought of moving the date up to a couple of weeks b4 skool starts. this way u have time 4 hunnymoon & setting up home b4 skool. congrats & good luck!

Answer 13

don't let him miss school.  Maybe take a long weekend away somewhere (like a road trip somewhere romantic) and then save the money for a nice honeymoon once he's not in school.  I'm sorry but school should always come first.  If you want him to have a decent job to support you and the future kids then let him finish school and don't let him miss any.

I can't believe your family doesn't understand this and is pushing him to skip school.

Answer 14

Your situation is scarily similar to mine!

My fiance & I have dated for 3 1/2 years and getting married 10/18/08 (also remaining abstinent until marriage). He is in school and so we planned a weekend away in a villa for after we get married. We will be there Saturday & Sunday night and spend the day on Monday. Then he will go to work/school starting Tuesday; I will go back to work on Tues or Wed. BUT we have already told our friends and family that we will be treating the rest of the week as though we are still away. Meaning, no friends over to hang out, no trips to visit the parents, limited phone calls, etc. We want to spend that week as a normal honeymooning couple. He has already talked with his teachers about having Monday off and they are fine with it.

Then we are planning a regular honeymoon for early January during Christmas break, before he starts his next semester.That way its only 2.5 months after we get married and he won't be stressed about school, tests, finals, etc.

So find something that will work for you guys....get away for the weekend following the wedding (a "mini-moon") and then maybe plan a trip for that January like us, or even the summer after you get married. God bless, and best wishes!!

Answer 15

Trust me when I say I know where you're coming from.

My fiance and I are getting married this November during the tail-end of my final semester in college. Sure it's an awkward time, but it's then  or next July (he wants to marry when his brother is home on leave from Iraq).

I plan on telling my professors the situation and going from there. I can't imagine a professor being completely unwilling to allow for test dates to move around or assignments to be turned in early when the circumstance is a HONEYMOON.

We were told the same thing, to wait another month and go after Christmas, but that just doesn't work for us.

Have him be honest with his professors and let them know the plans immediately so he and they can figure out how to make it happen. I'm certain it will work out for you, and you'll be happy you did.

Really, it's just 1 week. Make it happen. :)

Answer 16

my suggest is do what you and your fiance want to do. Do not listen to everyone or anyone because you should enjoy your wedding and honeymoon. You can always go on a little honeymoon that will not cost too much after the wedding,