Here's my issue. I've been with this woman for just about a year now, and I love her with all my heart. I'm a much happier, much better person around her. through the course of our relationship I have remained perfectly faithful to her andany girl i meet I compare to her, and no one ever even comes close...here's the problem. She has cheated on me, for about 3 months at the beginning of this year she was selling herself on craigslist and she also cheated on me with a couple guys that weren't customers. I have forgiven her for those crimes, and wanted to just put it behind us and move on with our lives. Even after that I have stood firm and devoted myself to her and only her. I am now deployed and she is saying that her way to cope is to flirt with guys and befriend them. I know guys, they will pretend to be her friend and to get in close and then start making moves, and she is very naive to this fact. She is very beautiful and actually thinks these guys want to be "just friends" regardless of the e-mails i have read where their intent to have s*x with her is quite obvious. She belives that s*x with me is meaningful, but s*x with other guys isn't. I believe that you have to have a connection with someone to have s*x with them, except w/ prostitution where monetary gains are the connection. I feel that if she has s*x with another man she is taking from our connection to add to theirs in order to have it. Can she really love me and sleep around with whomever shows her attention while I'm in Iraq? Or could it be that she is holding onto me until she finds someone better? I've been told to leave her, and I actually hope she finds this posting and reads it...understands how much it hurts me. I have had a few anxiety attacks over her, and this is not my first deployment. What should I do? Should I just deal with it? Should I leave her? Do I deserve this? Should she change? Should she put in more effort to make this work? What? She doesn't seem to care anymore, even though she says she does. She tells me she loves me and says "its just s*x". I know that if she does cheat again, its over, there will be no third chances when there shouldn't have even been a second. I just don't know anymore...If my love for her is infinite...why does it seem the end of the road is rapidly approaching? I know this is long and very explainitory, so thank you for bearing with me...any help is much appreciated.
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