Hormones or would you be mad too?

Question

I have a boyfriend of over 3 yrs now and we have a baby on the way due sept. we broke up last summer then got back together and while we were broken up he did alot of things that would make me not trust him. Anyway, i decided to set his best friend up w/ my best friend and today i was looking at his webpage and noticed that my friend had left him a comment refering to a text MY boyfriend had sent her earlier today, i asked him about it and apparently they have been texting alot, but he says only in a joking way & usually about his best friend, It really bothers me that they talk because i feel that i cannot talk to my friend like i usually do because shes becoming friends w him now, i told my bf that im uncomfortable w it and his response was 'chill out, i knew her in high school yal are just closer its just texting' im pretty mad that he couldnt respect me and say ok ill stop talking to her? Do i have the right to

Answer 1

Not to be mean it sounds more like a distrust and a control issue.

When you plan to have a serious relationship with someone you want them to be friends with your friends. You also have to trust the friend that their friendship is good but yours is strong enough to not cause issues.

I am speaking to from this view. I have been best friends with my best friend for 12 years, I have known the man I am with now for 12 years dating for almost 4. His best friend as been my friend for 13 years and has been dating my best friend for just over a year.

So best friends dating best friends. Sometimes we go out just girls, sometimes just guys, some times all 4 of us. And I talk to his best friend and he talks to mine. i trust nothing will happen but I know still I can go to my best friend when I have a problem and vent to her and it will be between us.

TRUST is one of the key things in a relationship. Demanding he stop talking to anyone makes you seem like you are trying to control him. It isn't outta respect for you thatyou want it it is because you really don't trust you best friend not to tell him things when you ***** about him.

Answer 2

mad too because i think you still want him deep inside you.. because if ur ove him you wudn't care at all

Answer 3

Of course he should see where you're coming from, they might be friends but you should come first!

Answer 4

Its his best friend's girlfriend, and his girlfriend's best friend..not the best situation to be in as he risks either pissing you off by not talking to her..or his friend by brushing off his girlfriend..even guys can't make that decision some times.  And it really all depends on what they are texting about...they could just be discussion his friend.

Answer 5

I think you have a right to be mad because if it isn't a big deal to him, BUT it is a big deal to you.. he should respect your feelings and stop texting her!