Horrible Mother?

Question

Okay my Mom and Dad got in a big fight like 2 days ago and they might get a divorce.

About 2 weeks before the incident my mom found a video on my comp. about a guy playing wii golf and it made it look like he was masturbating.

My mom got angry at this and she told me.

Now she's threatening to tell my dad (which is the only one in my family that loves me) to get him mad at me cause my mother hates me (Im not saying this, she LITERALLY hates me).

Also my Godparents (best friends of my mom and dad) normally come in and help ease the tension between my parents.

Anyways my mom is also threatening to tell them and all of her friends about that video just so that no one will be on my side or that everyone will get mad at me and lose a lot of respect.

No one around my family or friends (except my best friend which is the godparents son) knows or feels that masturbating is natural.

So basically when my mom tells, No one will talk to me anymore

WHAT DO I DO?!?!?!?!

Answer 1

I think you should try to tell her that he wasn't masturbating. He was playing wii golf. If she doesn't listen to you, talk to your dad before she tells him. If you are too lte and he starts to hate you, pack your bags. In your bags have all your money (Make sure you definitley have some dollar bills and quarters, a few outfits (Wash them at local laundr-o-mats), food, drinks (Nothing that will expire soon) and your treasured items. Have a picture of someone you love. In the middle of the night, sneak out. Normally you shouldn't do this, but now you are in a bad situation. I hope this helps

Answer 2

As adults, we don't see what's the big fuzz about masturbating really.  It's nothing really to be that embarassed about.

You mum hates you and she's under a lot of stress at the moment, so things will be worst.  There's nothing really that you can do since she has the uppperhand.  You can't win the war.  If she want to tell you off to your friends, there's nothing you can do.  Just preoccupy yourself with something to totally ignore the situation.

Remember, all this will pass.  You will look back in 5yrs time and find the whole situation nothing.  

I am sorry about the whole situation and yoru evil mother.

Answer 3

If it is not you in the video, I don't see what the big deal is.  You only have the video because you thought it was funny, right? Even if that isn't the case and she brings it up in mixed company, you can just say "oh, one of my friends thought it was funny and sent it to me".  

Your mother sounds like she has a lot of issues.  Have you talked to your dad about all of this?

Answer 4

run away

Answer 5

Wii Golf? That's ridiculous. There's much better stuff on the internet if you really were masturbating. Maybe cause your mom watches Wii Golf when she gets off...?

Answer 6

I think she misunderstood what she saw and you are overreacting.  I don't think she hates you, but you might want to explain to her what she saw.  And if the video really is a guy playing Wii golf then what do you have to be afraid of?  

She's not a horrible mother, but I think you may be lying about what is really in the video and over exaggerating here.

Answer 7

i agree, run away your family sounds fucked up!!!

Answer 8

I'm not sure what you need to do but your mother needs to grow up. If I were you I would probably just tell your dad (and if you feel comfortable doing it, your Godparents too) and say you had this stupid video on your computer that was a joke and your mom is blowing it all out of proportion. Apologize for it and be up front- if you get to them first she'll have nothing to say. I don't have teenagers yet but if this is the worst my kids do- have some semi-dirty video on their computer- I'll thank my lucky stars.

Good luck-

Answer 9

try to sit down and talk to your mother to make her understand, and ask her why does she dislike you so much. I would tell one of my family members about it befor she does. cause then she'll make it out to be what she wants it to be. dont worry you will be ok.

Answer 10

you need to get away from toxic situations like that one.  try to get out of the house quickly. thats my advice to you

Answer 11

Wow. im soo sry. my parents are divorced so i know the stress. dont worry about it too much. i think as long as you dont lose all hope than you will proly turn out fine. im sry that your mom doesnt like you. good luck. i hope i helped. oh yeah your explaination was a lil confusing.☺

Answer 12

run boy run

Answer 13

Your mom is highly emotional right now and is taking it out on you.  If you're close to your dad, I would go to him and explain the situation and that it is making you a nervous wreck since your mom is holding this over your head.

Answer 14

let's see-- you have a choice in this-- why not tell your dad about the video and disarm the weapon she(your mother) is holding over you-- letting your dad know about this empowers you --don't run from your mother confront her and let her know that you wish to be in control of your life- and even though it's hard to do remember this is only a small step in your personal freedom--If your parents are heading for a divorce then in most states depending on your age and the state you live in you can have a say in who you live with--you should investigate this for your own benefit

Answer 15

well if he isnt really doing that in the video, then the video is funny and you should just tell people that it was a guy playing Wii.....unless that is just your cover. But if the rest of them really love you, theyd believe you.

Answer 16

Tell your Dad about the incident first. She is horrible. Why would anybody want their child to be in shame?

Answer 17

your mom's a *****

Answer 18

If this video wasn't someone masturbating, or something embarrassing to you, you wouldn't be so upset about everyone finding out.  I think you're lying about what was actually in the video.  but even if it was hardcore g*y s*x or something equally icky for a mom to find, so what?  you're a teenager, right? with the internet?  of COURSE you're going to find p**n online, its ALL OVER the place.  for her to go so beserk is uncalled for.  i had a religious family and was once caught with a p**n tape i found in my uncle's old boxes in my grandparent's basement and the most i got was a stern talking to and a lot of prayer asking for forgiveness from God.  a bunch of c**p.  it was just p**n and there's nothing wrong with rubbing one out from time to time, especially if it keeps YOU from going beserk on your crazy beotch of a mother.  

and threatening to call you out over it in front of your other family?  how inappropriate!  It's something a little kid would do, not a mature adult.  It might be embarrassing for you, but i doubt your godparents would stop talking to you, or your friends for that matter.  tell her, go ahead and tell everyone.  go ahead.  because if you do that, she has NO power over you and it'll severely deflate her sails.  my mom was a tyrant like yours sounds like, and its playing these stupid childish games that makes a family go from close to distant.  you SHOULD talk to your mom, after the fact when this is all over, tell her that her you noticed her obviously TRYING to embarrass you and tell her how it made you feel.  even if she doesn't care, tell her.  and tell her that, if she cares about having a relationship with you AT ALL when you are old enough to move out, she needs to stop this immature behavior.  its only isolating herself from you.  and if she truly does hate you (its not impossible, only unlikely) let this continue.  when you're old enough, find a roommate to share an apartment with you, get a job, succeed on your own to show her just how wrong she was to do these kind of degrading things to you.  but sometimes you just can't change people no matter how much you want them to accept you or love you or support you.  accept the fact that your mom may never care for the person you ARE, but the person she'd like you to be.  do you really need that kind of pressure put on you at your age?  its so sad when a parent is the child

Answer 19

Did you tell your mom what the video was of or did she just figure that it was a guy?  I would just tell my friends and family the truth.  Tell them what she is up too.  I would also tell my dad so that he knows and he will be on your side not hers.

Answer 20

find the video tape and breeak it asap or tell them that it's not and it just looks like it

Answer 21

First I am sooo sorry from what I am reading, and if its true. Your mom is a real piece of evil.

Tell everyone first, before she makes it worst then it really is. Tell them how she threaten you, tell everyone...

Maybe you need to have a family meeting yourself to let everyone know what type of mother she really is.

And if they do get a divorce go live with your godparents cause it seems they are the only ones who understands you..

GOD BLESS!!

Answer 22

Did you earse the history on your computer.?If not go into your website history and show ur mother the website. Tell her your hurt that she thought that. And masterbation is normal

Answer 23

sorry about your parents fight and that masterbating video if i were you i would try to explain it to the mom and if that does not work show your best friend the video and explain to them that it is not mastebating mybe your friend will take your side and hopefully that will work hope u and your family can get a long better

Answer 24

i am not to sure i like your momma

Answer 25

if your mum hates you then have a talk to her. not a slang one or informal. just chat and express your feeling and say sorry for all the bad stuff you've done. works for me ;)

Answer 26

I honestly don't think you have anything to worry about. It was a guy playing golf. That's it! Your dad will know the difference.